How to Deal With A Potential Rapist/Attacker??

Question

Is pacifism always the answer?

What should girls do?

What should guys do?

Is there any different on gender?

Answer 1

Sing a song

STOP, DONT TOUCH ME THERE THIS IS MY PRIVATE SQUARE R-A-P-E GET YOUR HANDS AWAY FROM ME

worked for me

Answer 2

Do whatever it takes to get away from him "WHATEVER IT TAKES!"

Call for help if you can. Talk him out of it if you can, but if all else fails go apeshit and fight to get away.

Answer 3

You don't know until you are being attacked! The most "normal" looking person can be a potential attacker/rapist.

Answer 4

Telling the attacker that you have AIDS might work.

Answer 5

What do you mean potential? I carry pepper spray when I walk in the park...if anyone were to lay hands on me I would get them...it is always in my hand...otherwise it stays in my purse...handy...

Answer 6

i dont follow the way of the leaf so my response is attack.

but at what point are you talking about, have you noticed them across a bar? someone whos going in the same direction as you? or are they actualy attacking you?

if its at a bar or party just be aware and if you think theres goign to be a proplem leave prepared. if its the second just be aware of where they are. and if your attacked fight like all h**l and dont hold back, if male attacker groin and jaw and neck any for women add b*****s, grap hair, slam into walls headbutt anything thats how to deal with an attacker

Answer 7

I would grab a weapon and run away to the nearest inside phone.

Answer 8

It depends entirely on the circumstances.

Answer 9

run, beat it, kick,  fight-save yourself even if it means hurting him

Answer 10

h**l f---ing NO! Pacifism is NOT the answer. To act passive in that type of situation is a betrayal to your transcendental soul and to your evolutionary DNA as a primate. Take a GOOD self defense class. A lot of self defense classes offered on college campuses are horse manure, although some are excellent. It depends entirely upon the instructor. If rape is something that concerns you, and face it, given some of the creeps we see even here on YA, you should have some concern about it, then you should train yourself to be able to avoid it. Become physically fit, stronger, more confident, and learn some ways in which ANYBODY, no matter how strong or big they are, can be hurt. Also: make sure you use good judgment about the situations and environments you put yourself into. Make sure you are aware and paying attention when you are in any unfamiliar environment.

As a rule of thumb, I recommend Krav Maga, if you are strictly concerned about self defense, but plenty of people will claim to teach something, when they are really teaching some watered-down, very uneffective techniques. Due your research and use your judgment. If an instructor is showing you some complicated technique that seems like it could be easily defended by doing some much simpler, more direct movements, that the instructor is probably a con artist. If the footwork you are being taught to employ these techniques is as complicated as ballroom dancing, you should look elsewhere for instruction.

Note to Julie: If a man is attempting to rape you, you are well within your legal rights to use lethal force. That is a situation where any jury can be convinced that you legitimately felt your own life was in danger.

Answer 11

It depends on the circumstancs, but usually pacifism isn't the way to go.  If you're surrouned by 6 people all armed with guns you've got a different story, but most of the time that won't happen.  Fight back if they're really attacking you in general, especially if they're trying to take you somewhere.  If they only want your possessions, you're usually better off giving them up.  

Your reaction shouldn't be different based on gender, although a man who fights off a woman who attacks him will have more explaining to do than any other situation.  If you have to fight back, the eyes, throat, and knees are the best targets.  The groin is also good, for men especially but women too if you can get a good shot.  Don't rely on that though, most people will expect that.  If you're really in danger of losing your life, you can use any force necessary.  A woman who's attacked by a man will get away with more than any other scenario because of society's notions of gender and violence, while a man who's attacked by a woman will be constrained somewhat, but if it's really life-and-death you've got to do what you've got to do to survive.

If you're a woman or a girl, you can look into self-defense classes for a start.  I've never seen one that allows men in.

Answer 12

pacifism is NOT the answer.

you should do whatever it takes. go for the eyes, males and females, because it's a venerable spot and if your hands are up that high it's hard for your attacker to get a strangulation grip. if they come up from behind, a good elbow to the fleshy spot just below the ribs does it well.

and i know non-lethal force is best, but the dude wasn't looking for a fair fight when he attacked a 5'1 110lb girl. if i've got a weapon on me, knife, gun, etc, i'm using it, and i'm aiming to disable, and whether it's permanent or not is just a matter of fate.

Answer 13

potential means that they haven't done a d**n thing, so nothing is needed at that time.

Answer 14

keep a gun and a permit for that gun with you at all times

Answer 15

Step1

Pray and/or meditate

Step2

Chalk it up to bad karma

Step3

Recognize that he is a human and tell him that you love him

Step4

Ask yourself: What would Gandhi/Dalai Lama/Jesus do?

Step5

Try to remember that excellent saying about non-violence you got from your yoga teacher

Step6

Look down to draw his attention in that direction and promptly whip out a finger jab to his eyes. When he brings his hands up (too late) to protect himself, kick his testicles up into his throat—doubling him over. Follow-up by grabbing him by the hair and bringing his face down into a powerful knee blow. Get the h**l out of there as fast as you can.

Answer 16

Notify someone above you, like your boss, or even better: a police man. That kind of person should be watched, they are dangerous and absurd.

Answer 17

No you absolutely should not be passive. It is very important to be assertive. If you feel in the least bit threatened, just get away from the situation without worrying about looking rude if you're wrong. If you're actually attacked, yell, kick, and anything else you can do to stop them. It's a statistical fact that women who fight back have a better chance of not being raped, and if they are raped, they have a better chance of not being killed. It is best to kick instead of punching because women are stronger in the legs then men, but weaker in the arms.

I think the answer is a bit different for men because aggressive men are more likely to be attacked by other aggressive men- so it's better to have an attitude of pacifism, but of course you need to defend yourself if you have to.

A weapon is a bad idea because it could be taken and used against you. If a man attacked me, I would kick him hard enough to disable him long enough to get away and call for help.