How to Deal with Angry Dad?

Question

My dad is the kinda guy that likes to work in his yard. I don't have a problem with that, but he makes me and my brother work in the yard too.

We are not fans with working in the yard. He gets mad at us because he says "I busting my hump over here and you guys are either sleeping or at your friends", and I would say to myself " You want to work in the yard and we don't so why are you getting mad at us".

Just last weekend my dad was cutting trees down and said" I need you guys Friday and Saturday, you can work Sunday if you want and I will pay you". So we worked Friday and he hit his head and got stitches and that took about 3 hours out of the day. Then we worked Saturday and decided not to work Sunday. So Sunday came and he got mad because we didn't help him and my uncle. So he made us work Sunday too and he also made us work Monday. In the end he paid my uncle $700 for helping and he didn't even give us a pat on the back. I don't know why he gets like this and it is really annoying. Is there any help.

Also he said"I should of had daughters if I knew my son's were going to be like this".

Answer 1

just  tell   them

Answer 2

Try to walk in your dad's shoes for a minute. He has two sons, he asks them to help him, and they act like it is a big deal. I grew up in a family of six kids and we all helped with yard work and we were happy to help out. Maybe he is angry because he feels like he has two lazy sons. That would make any dad or mom angry.

Answer 3

Yeah, he should allow you TIME for what you want to do and TIME for spending with friends. But friends also would come and help you. Likely you live there, and maybe do very little around the house or the yard. You should appreciate being able to spend time with your dad and helping him out and helping with the place where you live.

You wonder why he get like his and it is really annoying. I guess sometimes parents feel that we are really annoying too. And sometimes they give us more than "a pat on the back"; rather, whacks, harder, and a little bit lower down.

You and your dad seem to be on different wave-lengths. That is not necessarily bad, but do try to tune him in some of the time. And you don't even seem concerned about his having to get stituces; only that it took 3 hours out of the day.

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Answer 4

You aren't going to like it but I agree with your Dad.  Living in your house comes with certain responsibilities such as doing chores and working in the yard.  I am sure cutting down trees and working in the yard isn't your Dads idea of a great time either.  After your Dad was hurt, he shouldn't of had to do any more in the yard.  The two of you should have taken over and done it.  Your Uncle got paid because it isn't his home but it is yours.  Try to help out more.  On the other hand, when you do help out, your Dad should tell you you're doing a great job.

Answer 5

wow, sorry. i have a good friend who's dad is alot like that and my dad likes to call me lazy even tho i'm NOT. i just have a different style than him. i mean, S**t i do yoga and babysit every day. anyone who does either knows you cna't be lazy and do either of those right. but my dad is impossible to tlak to! he's not a good dad except for the fact that he wants to be a good one.

well, sorry to say idk how to help you.

if he won't listen when you tell him you two are just different, then idk what to tell you.

i think that you shouldn't HAVE to work unless you're over 18. cuz i'm 15 and i babysit daily cuz my sister had a kid and isn't married and she has to work. so i have to babysit all the time and it's stealing my 'childhood' cuz it's almost all i do!!  so just know you're not alone!

oh and don't get an attitude about it cuz he'll prolly just get mad

Answer 6

How old are you? If you are under 18 this seems unreasonable, but if you are over 18 and still living at home it does seem reasonable.

It certainly isn't a situation I would want to be in, but if you are over 18 maybe he is just trying to get you the heck out of his house. If your younger, sorry your stuck living with someone like that!