How to Gain Respect..?

Question

What qualities do i need to gain respect from others?

How should i act and treat them?

Im scared that if i act too nice i will end up a tool or a doormat.

What can i do to get away from that?

Thanks.

Answer 1

You should hold true to your convictions and simply be yourself. Over time people will see this and respect you for it. Important piece of advice though, don't push your convictions on others, lead by example.

Answer 2

In order to be respected, you need to respect yourself, don't do anything that would bring shame or humiliation to yourself or family.  Always stick to your word, and never break your word.  Hold your head up high, do things that bring pride to yourself, but don't be conceited or boastful.  Always treat others with respect, and be kind to your elders and look out for those who are weak.  Have good morals and values and do what you think is right in your heart.  You can be nice, but to be respected, you don't need to be a doormat.  Everyone has limits and boundaries, set your own boundaries and don't allow others to cross those lines.  When those lines are crossed, let them know how you feel by using tact and class, let them know you did not appreciate it.  If you demand respect; you will never get it, you must be a positive role model to be respected.  Think about others in your life who you respect, why do you respect them.  Adopt some of their styles and learn to grow from their actions.  Find a mentor.  

Answer 3

Listen to people, decide for yourself how you feel about an issue and stick to it. Just stand up for the decisions you make in life. It's okay to change your mind or compromise, but have a good reason for doing so. Nice has it's place but being of good character will get you farther in life. Character BTW means you're honest, trustworthy and you do the right thing.

Answer 4

The most important one is to be respectful of others, of course.

Follow through on your promises - at work, in romance, and with friends.

Don't make promises that you may regret or accept promises that you are not prepared to have fall through.  Like: "hey, could you loan me $50 until my next paycheck?"  - Don't do it if you truly cannot afford to lose that $50 forever.

To avoid being too nice, be sure to set clear boundaries.  Such as: "Come have a drink with us!"; you respond, "On another night, maybe, but tonight I promised a friend I'd help her paint"; they may say, "That sucks, why not ditch her - she'll understand if she's your friend!".  Don't fall for it!  You want them to know you keep your promises, even if it means turning them down.  They will respect you and trust that you will do the same with a promise to them.

In other words, don't risk losing the respect you already have to appear "nice" to someone else.

Answer 5

Do it legitimately. Be yourself. Don't try to be anything other than yourself.