How to I counter the passive-aggressive tactics diplomatically?

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How to I counter the passive-aggressive tactics diplomatically?

I work in an open environment where people always are jealous, have an ax to grind with you, and who are competitive.

The open atmosphere makes it difficult to concentrate or even to have some privacy. My "cubicle" mate is a talkative and passive-aggressive type who always spies and pounces on me when I'm in the depths of concentration. She acts desperate for help often too. (Help with the computer)

I've politely told her that I'm able to help her when I'm free, but she seems to NOT be interested in the least to learning how to do something; I feel like it's a tactic to get me distracted.

I know most people where I work are "mean-spirited" and VERY passive-aggressive (so they can keep their status and standing among the group; they don't want others, especially those who they think are "beneath" them). But, bottom-line, I need to find good ways to react better to this behavior.

So, how to I counter the passive-aggressive tactics diplomatically?

Answer 1

Been there and done this & suffered. Only advice I can give is head down & continuously appear engrossed in what you are doing. Make it appear extremely difficult to break your concentration. Try not to smile as you are doing it and quietly plan finding another job. Regards. UK

Answer 2

im not in the workplace with you so i dont know, but to me, im not sure if your coworker is "out to get you." you might just be a person who likes to focus on your work and not be distracted. My suggestion is to write her a handwritten letter and leave it on her desk stating your concerns. Im sure that would solve the problem. plus you wouldnt have to have a awkward/mean spirited conversation with this person. To avoid that type of behavior form other, I usually do not socialize with anyone and respond in one word answers to questions.