How to INSTANTLY calm down If u become INTENSELY angry at work?

Question

I asked this question in America to, I just wanted to see what the people in the UK and Ireland do if they ever get angry at work

A lot of the time when I am at any job anything anyone says or does makes me angry. I have freaked out 4 times in my whole work history, and got caught but NOT fired once, and my last job I quit and recently found a new one. When I say angry, I mean I am emotionally on the brink of crying, cussing and screaming at the person, or just relentlessly going after them and killing them and maybe me too so I wont ever be in pain again. These feelings get stronger everyday for the past 3 years, I KNOW I WILL do this if I dont find a way stay calm, how do I stay calm?

Answer 1

when you feel yourself get angry just say this in your head

"LOOK UP!  LOOK DOWN!  NOW LOOK AT MR FRYING PAN!"

(you have to watch this first lol)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ABD8u0PwX...

Answer 2

Grab someone to vent off with go outside and take a break! Get a cup of tea, anything - just leave the situation for 10 minutes or so and things will be easier to deal with!

Answer 3

Go for a break. Clear your head!

Answer 4

you could do things like tai chi, yoga and meditation in your spare time to calm yourself down, or try boxing as a way of venting your anger. when you're feeling really angry at work you could try and get out and go for a walk outside and clear your head.

Answer 5

Go get some sedatives from your doctor, you need them, tell your doctor you are afraid of commiting homicide if you don't get them, although at that point you MAY be admitted to a psych ward.

Answer 6

tai chi!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! not just that it will calm u down, it reduce stress levels and improve ur health

Answer 7

If normal contact with others makes you feel like this, you need to find a psychologist who can do anger management exercises with you.  Or you're in the wrong type of work.

Answer 8

Please see a doctor so they can rule out several problems that can lead to the feelings you have been having.

There are way to many issues that would require you telling people a lot more about you for any replies to be accurate.  So don't take an answer from here, apart from see your doc.

Keep a diary of the feelings and things like, diet, sleep, and periods to help your doc identify the cause of your turmoil.

Answer 9

  If you can't deal with it by using one of the techniques, such as counting backwards from 20, to 1, (and prevent yourself from making yourself angry, in the first place) is important to express that anger appropriately, at the time, and to the person who caused it, if possible, or immediately afterwards. If not, maybe by walking away later, and bellowing your rage and/or frustration. In some situations, such as work, or school, it might be better to cover your mouth with a cupped hand, bandanna/handkerchief, or use the crook of your elbow, to muffle the sound. Some people find that it helps to journal those thoughts, and emotions soon afterwards.

Anger, which is repressed, rather than healthily expressed, tends to fester, and later may cause explosive fits of rage, or depression. Let yourself feel the burning energy of that anger, and visualise it, as vividly as possible, as a hot flame cleansing you. It can help to have someone you can talk to. For more physically inclined people, a punching bag, or hitting your pillow, can be an effective release mechanism: visualise, as vividly as you can, that you are striking back at the cause of that anger. "But next time, when you get mad, just remember this quote: 'Those who anger you, conquer you.' It's basically saying that when you give someone the power to make you mad, or let it get to you, it's like they're controlling you.    

     When I realized that, it made me mad, so I try to control my anger and not let people see it. You can still control your anger without being walked all over. You just have to draw a line." Try saying to yourself, in your mind: "I am fire! I am ice!". Repeat for as long as it takes for you to calm down sufficiently. Anger management is addressed in much more detail than can be included here, in section 4, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris and practice daily, one of the relaxation methods in section 2, 2.c. 11, or 2.i

A variant of Eye Movement Desensitisation & Reprocessing therapy, which has been used successfully for those people suffering from anxiety: it is easily learned, quick to use, yet can be very effective, is on page N, of section 6, and I use it before the relaxation techniques, because I have found that it makes them quicker to employ, and more effective. These will enable you to emotionally centre yourself, when practiced regularly.

Answer 10

Sounds like you might be suffering from work related stress, and it builds till it blows in ways you can't control.

You might benefit from some cognitive behaviour therapy to teach you how to respond differently when you feel that way. Your doctor can refer you.

Answer 11

it sounds like you need to see a doctor.

Answer 12

From observation.

Decode this lyrics " Don't know much - about misery"

Watch the chimp scream and jumping in getting it out with "Out of my head"

After the angry ghost disappear.

Will cool down to it's own senses.

All the creaming and jumping all for nothing.

Wasting time.

While others watch what went wrong when the chimp should be climbing up the coconut tree instead of making a mess at place of work.

Luke 9.25,55-56,60

What do you think?

Answer 13

Count to 10, have some water, if that don't work, go to the boxing club and punch some bags in :)