How to ask a parent?

Question

I have recently decided i wanted to go on the pill, but not because i'm sexualy active, very much the opposite.

I really want to go on it because i have extremely painful cramps ect and i feel gross when i have it, how would i ask my mum about taking me to the doctors so i can get it? I always try and ask her then get nervous and give up haha, any help?

Answer 1

just ask her im sure she will understand and if your over 16 in the uk you can go on your own

Answer 2

You don't actually have to tell your mother.Make an appointment with your doctor and tell him the problem.He will sympathise and  proscribe something to ease it.You do not need permission to see the doctor inspite of your age.The doctor will keep everthing confidential.You can tell your mother if you want to afterwards

Answer 3

There are other things besides going on the pill that will help with menstrual cramps.

Taking the pill suppresses production of eggs in your body so therefore you wont ovulate and you will have a very light period.

This is going against nature and I believe that if you have to ask your mother for permission for you to use them then you are not old enough to take them.

Your body needs to mature properly before you mess it up with unnatural medication.

If you are not sexually active, I have heard that taking the pill can delay you ovulating when you stop taking it. How long did you think you would need to take it for ?

Try other methods first and see what the doctor says.

Answer 4

Make it clear that its not about s*x, you just want to get rid of the cramps.

I'm sure your mum knows the benefits of it, and would be fine so just ask her.

Answer 5

i would go up to her and say mom we need to talk. she will ask you while sitting down with you about what? you should say mum i want to go on "the" pill not because i am sexually active which i am NOT but because i feel gross and have terrible cramps whenver i have my period and the pill will settle it down. and say i am also worried about what happens if a guy forces me to have s*x...

Answer 6

I think you should go to your GP first and see if it is the case to go on the pill to help.

You can also try Vitex which will help to regulate your period.

Answer 7

Just explain to her what you said here! =) Inform her about all the good effects like less acne, shorter periods, no cramps, stuff like that

Answer 8

Just reasure her it's because of the reasons you posted.

Lots of teens do it.  A plus for you personally too, is that

if you ever decide you want to try s*x, you'll be protected.

Good luck!

Answer 9

I would be straight with her, the last thing your mother would want  that you lie to her. Explain the situation and tell her the real reason why you want to go on the pill, its not uncommon that many people go on the pill due to bad period pains. Try and reassure her it isnt because you are sexually active but its because of all the period pains you are having. Perhaps asking her to come with you to see the doctor might help or ease both your minds by doing this you are reassuring her that you are not sexually active.

Try and be honest and calm at the end of the day your mum just wants your best interests. :)

Answer 10

just say what you just said here to her =]

Answer 11

just tell her ..

mom i want to go on the pill , cause i really dont want to experience painful cramps .. and just explain to her how bad it actually is ..

Answer 12

Just start talking to her about how you have very bad cramps. Say that you have been reading up on remedies for them, and that you think that going on the pill may be the easiest and most efficient way (say efficient). Stress that you DON"T want it because you are sexually active.

If you approach it in a mature, calm manner, your mother will most likely listen.

Answer 13

You don't actually need your parents permission to go on the pill - you can go on your own. Don't you just love confidentiality!!

Answer 14

You have to get confident and talk to your mum or go to the doctors without telling you doctor won't tell because its confidential.

Answer 15

Try to just tell her what is going on.  If you are too scared write her a little note and leave it where only she would find it just to get the conversation started.  Good luck.

Answer 16

Listen get your mum on her own and tell her you need to talk to her Personally. If she asks why tell her why and ensure her you are not sexually active. Don't worry. I'm 14 and I have talked to my mum about lots of personal stuff. It really helps and improves your bondage!

Answer 17

Tell her you want to go to the doctor for those reasons, and then if he suggests that you don't have the awkwardness of doing that do you?

Answer 18

tell her what you just said and that it is NOT for sexual reasons