How to ask for a promise ring?

Question

My birthday is coming up, and my boyfriends asking for a list. We've been together nearly 10 months, and live 5 hours apart, and I think it'd be nice to get each other promise rings. But I'm unsure of how to bring it up without sounding like I just want another piece of jewelry, especially since he doesn't wear jewelry so he probably wouldn't even want a ring.

Suggestions please :)

Answer 1

If you love him and trust him you do not need a promise ring.  

Answer 2

If you really, really want a promise ring you need to tell him. Men can't read minds, and he won't know what you want if you don't communicate it to him.

You should ask yourself why you want it though. Is your motivation to have a nice symbol of your relationship, or is it to try to force him into a more serious relationship? Only you know that, and you need to be certain that your motivations are pure before you tell him. Also, you need to be sure of where he's at in the relationship. Asking a guy for a ring could really scare him, as it could sound like a big commitment that he's not ready for. You don't want to scare him off.

I have a website - http://stores.ebay.com/The-Promise-Ring-... that has loads of information about promise rings. If you're still interested you could read more about them, and even try to work out what kind of a ring you want (don't expect him to just be able to guess what style of ring you want!)

Oh- and if he doesn't wear rings he could always keep his on a chain around his neck.

Answer 3

If you have to ask for a promise ring, does it really make the promise special? He should get it for you because he wants to give you a symbol of his commitment, I don't really know if its something you can ask for.

When a special occasion comes up, you could get him a ring and then see how he reacts. If he doesn't wear rings, maybe a watch could work. Then let him decide when he's ready to return the gesture.

Answer 4

If he doesn't wear jewelry, I wouldn't count on him wanting one.  I also wouldn't suggest that you bring up the subject of him buying you one.  If you want one that badly, the best you can do is to drop a hint to one of his close friends or relatives and hope that that person passes the message along to your guy.

A promise ring really should be "his" idea as much as possible, otherwise it loses most of its significance.

Answer 5

You don't ask for a promise ring.  Besides, they are completely stupid and pointless.  Wait until you're old enough and mature enough to actually get married before worrying about things like that.

Answer 6

just tell him you would like a ring, it was my 21st last year and i asked my boyfirend, ijust said to nhim, i really want something off you, something that shows imyours and how i feel about you" And he saud what would you like? and i said a ring and i got a diamond ring off him, i still wear it now!!

just be honest with him x*x

Answer 7

You could just be like I have an idea, why don't we both think of the same gift to give each other! And then you could be like, well we could get each other cards, or candy, or wait maybe a promise ring!!! Good luck!