How to ask mom about birth control?

Question

I am a sixteen year old girl. I do not plan on getting pregnant any time soon. I've never had s*x, and I'm not sure I want to for a while, but just to be safe (in case I make a crazy adolescent mistake), I want to go on birth control. How do I tell my mom that I want to go on birth control without her going all wierd, you know?

We've never really had a good talk about s*x, but we've conversed about it, and I don't really think I need a "birds and the bees, always wear a condom" talk, because I already know all of this; it would just be awkward and full of "I know, Mom"s.

Again, help?

Answer 1

talk to her about. sit her down and tell her. mom i don't plan on having s*x, but if i do, i don't want to get pregnant.  see how she reacts..take the convo from there.  hopefully she'll understand.. if not you can pick it up at a clinic over the counter.. no parent needed.. i don't know how much it costs tho..  not that i think you should be doing it behind her back.. but it's better than getting pregnant..

Answer 2

Ask your GP instead.

Answer 3

It's great that you want to talk to your mom about this.  Just tell her that you would like to talk to her about something that's important to you.  Once you have her attention, tell her what's on your mind.  Be honest with her.  She'll probably be shocked and a little worried, just reassure her.  Let her know that you're taking your responsibility seriously and into your hands by making sure your protected should you decide to have a sexual relationship.

Also, you're 16.  You don't need to even tell her, if you choose it's too hard to talk to her about it.

You're old enough to go to a sexual health clinic and see a dr. there.

HOWEVER... to ease any embarassment for yourself and your mother if she were to come across the pills, I would suggest you talk to her.

Good luck...

Answer 4

tell her that you have harsh periods. and theat helps. just start getting pissy around her when its your time. then, shell notice and you can just bring it up.

Answer 5

Birth Control? I know my gf's mom was willing to give her birth control because she gets bad cramps when she is on her period.  So you might want tell your mom your periods are stating to be bothersome, or painful.  Let her know that birth control can help you alleviate the pain.  If she asks are you going to use it for s*x, just tell her you will when your 18 (this way she does not suspect anything now).  

I don't know if you should take birth control, it might increase your breast size or hips.  Some girls gained weight.  So I don't know if you want to go that route.  

If you don't want to ask your mom, then go to a free clinic (Plan Parenthood) and they will help you with that.  Also condoms are a decent alternative.

Answer 6

you talk like you are so intelligent and you cant come up with the words to ask your mom to get you birth control? she's your mom and yea it might be weird at first but she'll understand. and if she feels like giving you the talk don't just listen to her talk, apply it, because she's been there before. so don't worry about it, when you 2 are alone and you feel comfortable just ask her. good luck and becareful. p.s. condoms are life savers.

Answer 7

When you bring up the topic to your mum, just tell her that you just want to be safe than sorry. If you go on the pill and you do happen to make a mistake then she won't have to worry about you coming home telling her that you are pregnant. And if she does give you a little "birds and the bees talk", just let her go, it just means that she cares. It is very mateur of you to make the first move to ask her to go on the pill, she should see that.

Answer 8

go ask her ya dig

Answer 9

don't ask her anything, put off s*x until you're old enough to get birth control yourself

Answer 10

Well you could talk to your mom and say that you want to go on the pill mostly for lighter periods and to prevent any breakouts, and explain your plans on abstinence, but just in case it does happen (and it can when you least plan on it) that you want to be protected. If she's upset at first, that's a normal reaction for a parent to have initially, but she'd more than likely understand, since it's better to have a daughter on the pill than having a pregnant daughter. Besides, our moms themselves were once young girls with the same questions and problems that we're dealing with now.

Answer 11

You know, if you really wanted to make this easy on yourself, you could just email her a link to this question.

But if you want to confront her face-to-face, just be direct.  Tell her that you believe that it's in your best interests to start using birth control and tell her why you feel that way.

As always, be prepared for her to say no.  I don't know your parents, so I can't say for certain how they will react, but there's a chance that they will not "understand" and will refuse to allow you to use birth control.

Also, you should always use a condom, even if you are on birth control.  Nothing can ruin your day like finding out that you have an STD.

Answer 12

omg,i want to know your answer too! im deffinatly not having s*x,ive never really had a bf ne way,but i want it for the period thing. im 2 years younger than you also. i hope you get some answers =)

Answer 13

Okay, so Im dealing with the same problem. I want to tell my mom and ask her for birth control. I couldn't imagine my self pregnant.

Birth control is a way to go and asking your mom is the way to do it. I plan on talking to my mom about it once she gets home form work. I will let you know how she responds. Even thoug every parent is different its always good to talk about it not do it behind her back, for one it shows responsabillity.

I understand it can be hard, trust me I have been trying to talk to my mom for a while. I also suggest that if you do get on the pill to also use a condom, sure you want to be protected from STDS but birth control is only 99.9% affective there is still a .01 chance that you can become pregnant, it is a big chance but hey it happened to my mom thats why Im here today...

explain to your mom, let her know this is your choice and its always better to be protected than to be pregnant. when you talk to her be serious no funnies.



this is what im going to do. When she gets home im going to go with her to her room and close and lock the door so its pirvate and my siblings dont hear. Im going to tell her about my birth how it was not really wanted, i will go on saying what happens if i make a mistake and end up having s*x at my age i want to be protected and condoms just wont do they are only 72% affective. ( so her you know what your talking about) i will go on by saying my period and cycle has been getting worse and i need a break im having a hard time handleing it. and go on from there...

if you show reasponsibility and ahow you know what your talking about it can lead to an understanding talk with mom and she may see that you are ready and that you have proved urself and she may just get it.

Answer 14

personally, i think if you arent having s*x yet then you dont need the daily hassle of remembering to take the pill. if it were me, i'd buy a pack of condoms and keep one in my purse.

if you choose to talk to your mom about it maybe take her out for coffee. somewhere you can have a fairly private conversation but public enough that she isnt going to flip out and cause a big scene.

good luck

Answer 15

go to a free clinic,buy condoms.

  You want to be protected from pregnancy,and stds.

Answer 16

I am a mother of two teen daughters and my husband and I as well as our girls have discussed this subject at length.  We are open with our kids and never uncomfortable to talk about anything...drugs, alchohol, s*x ..whatever.  We work hard to try to keep the girls from being uncomfortable to talk to us about these things.  I am sorry that you and most teens don't have this kind of relationship with their parents and that most parents are closed minded and afraid and uncomfortable to talk about these things with thier kids.  

You are being very mature about this, wanting to be responsible, it is very comendable.  

It would of course be best if you try talking to your mom, she may surprise you.  If you really can't then go to your doctor or a free clinic of whatever type is in your town and ask for birth control.  You may have to pay for it or it may be free, I'm not sure, but you know yourself and if you feel that you may not have the strength to say no some day and actually go and have s*x then it is wonderful that you'll be prepared.  I highly recomend you carry a couple of condoms too though because the pill protects against pregnancy, but not STD's.  If you'd like to email me and talk about this or anything else in more detail I'd be happy to help you whereever I can.  Good Luck