How to ask out a stranger?

Question

How do I ask out a stranger without sounding desperate? Everytime I go the store where the cute guy i've been eyeing on I always catch him looking at me and I wanna start up a conversation and ask him to hang out. What if he has a girlfriend, I hate getting rejected :| lol and guys what do you think of a girl asking the guy out?

Answer 1

just do it!......but be careful hez not a murderer or rapist or terrorist or phantom or but sucker!!!

Answer 2

um...i guess just slowly start talking 2 them and if like they have the same interests then just..idk im only 11!!

Answer 3

well you should try asking if he's seeing someone at the begging of the conversation

Answer 4

I would love it if a woman asked me out!!  I don't see what the problem is.  Why can't the woman ever bring the man a bunch of flowers??  Why does the man always have to buy everything??  When you go to this store and if you see him again, just kind of gradually walk up beside him, pick up something on the shelf, pretend that you are interested in it, then look at his hand to see if he has a wedding ring on.  Then just start talking to him.  Ask him about the weather, ask him if he has ever tried the product in your hand, take a look at whatever he has in his shopping cart and comment on something that he has.  Then start laughing and giggling, and then simply ask if he would like to go see a movie or something like that.  You have a 50-50 chance of him saying "yes"!!  You can ask me, if you want to practice!!  Good Luck!!

Answer 5

just try saying hi and adding a comment to what he is buying.

for example, if he is looking at a cereal box, say :

Hey is that your favorite brand?? or something, just try to start a conversation and ask wit skool/university he goes to, etc.

Answer 6

now you know what guys go through everyday of our lives. go up to him and ask him about something in the store. that should start up a conversation.

Answer 7

haha... run your cart into his. =P

Answer 8

i think u should just tell him hey and if he says hey back just say something like "come here often" or something stupid like that im sure a conversation will start and defently get his # :)

Answer 9

become friends first just ask name try to become friends and share intrests and then after firends then ask him out

Answer 10

funny.. thats the exact name of this conveniently named video.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eBGIQ7Zuu...

Answer 11

First of all, nothing wrong with a girl asking me out, it makes it a lot easier for the gutless guys(I was like that sometimes). Ok, you will be nervous and your heart with thump quickly, but ask him what his name is. Just have a casual conversation, and from that point on it could develop into more.  Is he a student, does he wear a shirt about so-and-so....

Answer 12

just go over to where he is start looking at something in the store and just say hey i have seen you here a few times, what are you doing? or something to taht effect, it breaks the ice and if he says something you could even lie and say like o yea well thats why i come here too or w.e something to start up a convo and then just say hey well im doing this at sometime or w.e if you wanted to come to hang out you couild then go from there if he says he has a gf so what? if you dont try you will never know. live with no regrets about that kind of stuff, you never know tommorow might be the last time you ever see him

Answer 13

hey you can't just ask "do you want to go out with me " talk to him first, ask questions about him and if you get to know him better and you know if he doesn't have a girlfriend then you ask " do you want to go out with me?"

Answer 14

Asking a friend on a date is intimidating but remember you are already friends. This means you have common interests, are able to communicate and enjoy spending time together. Take the initiative, overcome the fear of rejection, your friendship could develop into something more. You will never know until you ask. This is how to go about it.

STEPS:

Wait for the right time. They say that timing is everything. If the two of you have never been alone together, a date could be awkward. Here are some ideas:

One of the best ways to get your friend interested is to talk about other girls/guys with that person. It's perfectly acceptable behavior for friends and it just may breed jealousy. Don't do it too much, and never whine about how the opposite s*x is treating you. This may parlay into a flirtatious friendship.

You are picking up on good strong signals from your friend and the two of you have an obvious connection. This doesn't mean that you should jump right into it though. Asking a friend out can be awkward. Don't show up the next time you are scheduled to hang out with your group of friends. When your friend calls, let it go to voicemail, but call him/her back in an hour or so. Say that you were busy. Your friend may ask something like, "you haven't been around a lot recently." Say, "yeah, I've been busy. I'm free for dinner tomorrow night though."

If you hang out in a group of friends, you need to find some alone time when the two of you can bond. Don't show this person more attention than your other friends when they are around, because that could make him/her uncomfortable. Just wait for a time when everyone else splits off or when you two are the first ones there and strike up a conversation. If your friend tries to get alone time with you in the future, that's a good sign. If he/she doesn't, you should probably wait to ask him/her out.

Plan the date. Be flexible, have more than one date idea in mind. Choose date options that you both enjoy. To reduce anxiety, keep the date casual.

Decide on how, when and where.

How, consider the advantages and disadvantages of asking in person, by telephone, by text or email. Choose one method.

When, select a time to ask that is mutually appropriate.

Where, choose a location to ask that offers privacy and no interruptions.

Ask the friend out. Before speaking, relax with a few deep breaths. Attitude is important; believe in yourself, you are prepared. Smile and make eye contact.

TIPS:IF the friend/stranger turns you down, remain polite. Avoid pressure to change their mind. Maintain a positive attitude, you acted from the heart and that was honest and courageous. Put the experience in perspective. "No" is disappointing but it is not a reflection of who you are.

If you are very shy, it may help to prepare before asking. On paper, write what to say. With a friend or family member, rehearse aloud. Ask for feedback. Review and revise the script.

Remember that friendship does not always translate into romance. A rejection is not the end of your original friendship. Continue this important relationship in order to have support the next time you ask out a peer.

Psychologists say that the longest lasting relationships start off as friendships. That being said, it can be difficult establishing romance in a relationship borne of friendship. The courtship period can be short or even non-existent and that may breed regrets when a flirtatious stranger comes along. Make sure that you transition from friendship to courtship and then to intimacy. Don't leave romance to chance.

Things may not always work out. If they don't it could tear apart your friendship. It may work if you play it off as a joke or a dare but this may make so you can't ask her out again.

Answer 15

first off, I wish more women would do it. But the best way I know to go about it is to kind of thing is to start of by investigating into what he likes, find a common ground, something you both like, and next time you see a chance to bring it up, say he's doing something related to it, you comment about it and ask if he'd like to join you. Keep it on a friendly basis by shaking hands. This makes you look good in his eyes, saying I'm friendly, but not desperate. and you will keep it as friends on your first outing so that you can get to know him well enough to know if you'd really like him or not. I'd suggest a group outing, but that might cause problems if you have S****y friends. It's up to you what you do though.

Answer 16

that i good that u want to ask out.but i think u should tell him something that u need help with.ps i am a 11 year old girl so i do not know much and also please do my quetion.

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;...

Answer 17

Ask him to coffee no dude would reject that unless of course you are desperate. Guys like confidence

Answer 18

Hey, do you like the Backstreet Boys? thats all you gota say

Answer 19

Where's a good venue to spend one's evening in this vicinity. ( Translate this into your local parlance.)

Answer 20

im sorry desperate to me is not doing anything ---- say hello --- ask him for a coffee or something to get together get alone and talk ---- best wishes

Answer 21

give it a shot i love when girls ask me out its real nice takes the pressure off