How to avoid or quit being shallow?

Question

Everytime I talk to people it feels like they want to F*** with me. Is that what social about and it suppose to feel like that? Both unattractive(ugly people) and attractive people are like that but I don't think its right. There is only one person that is more attractive than me at my school. I don't think its right because judging people how they look is bad. They judge me but I don't judge them. I try to think that I have a fake body with the fake world. I'm tired of talking to people online without judging them how they look. It feels like I want to judge people. I'm kinda one of the attractive people at my school. What should I do? You can ignore this and just answers the question.

Answer 1

The sad truth is that passing judgment on someone is something that people do with almost every situations. It's a basic human reaction to anything whether it be something complex to a person to something as simple as a tv program.

This is why it is good to sometimes think about what you're passing judgment on and maybe take a different perspective on it. Also, you might want to compare your opinion with someone else's to gain a different perspective.

You also might want to invest a bit less on appearance and remember that some people can look one way one day and completely different the next. And I know you've probably heard it before but personality can be a lot more important. If the person can make you laugh and feel good about yourself then they're worth spending time with.

Hope this helped!

Answer 2

Try to be around people that you can relate to as a start.  Relate to, such as what your beliefs are. Try to shift your focus from your outer thoughts about your appearance, to the feelings of aliveness inside it.    

Answer 3

well it certainly sounds like your shallow due to the fact that you call yourself one of the prettiest people in school. You should just judge people based on their personality, not their looks.  

Answer 4

I think you should understand that everyone (even pretty people) have downfalls and imperfections. At the same time though, everyone (even "ugly" people) have great qualities that make them beautiful!  You have insecurities just like everyone else does.  It takes time to realize people can't and never will be perfect but if you work on understanding that then things will likely change in your eyes.  

Answer 5

Develop some charisma which will attract others to you.  The idea of basing everything on looks is shallow.  Look deeper within yourself and others.  Here is a link I found which will help you develop your personality.  One of the suggestions is to pay others sincere compliments.  Try it.

Answer 6

Well first, try not to be self centered. Do you think it's a little much to say that ur the most attractive person at your school, and to assume what people think about you? It seems like you have a stuck up opinion about yourself, and maybe if you were more down to earth, and thought less about people's appearances and more about their personalities, your life would seem less shallow because its about real friendships and feelings not about what you look like. Sorry to be a little harsh, but I hope this helps, and that you try not to look at "normal" people as "ugly, therefore not a good friend"

Answer 7

I,m out here in the real world living , too ?   every where i go or do try to talk to some one ! it,s all the same as you said ?   some are too quite or insecure of talking opening !  many are afraid to ask or tell certain story because there is an adult bully , who would talk crazy or make up about you , just to tease you or spread wild dumb way to get you upset !  they usually like to laugh with friend in front of you or me ?   i simply ignore them and walk away !   i search better people if i find one ?