How to be a Beautiful Bridesmaid?

Question

how do you be a beautiful bridesmaid, all smiley smiley, when you know you just dont want to be there? Brother In-Law getting married, scared I may open my big mouth and tell the bride what i really think.

Answer 1

Go to this link http://www.bridesmaid101.com/bridesmaid_...

Being a bridesmaid isnt just about the wedding day, its to offer support and comfort to the bride in the lead up to the day... if you dont feel that you can be a friend to her I would find an excuse to politely decline the offer of being a bridesmaid.  Here is another link for how to decline a bridesmaid offer http://www.ehow.com/how_2145168_decline-...

Good Luck!

Answer 2

If you have genuine concern for the marriage, i.e. the bride is a drug abuser/ infidel/ alcoholic/ etc. then I say that you absolutely have every right to voice your opinions.

If you just don't like the bride's attitude or your personalities clash or you don't think she's good enough for your bro. in law, I would say join the club girl!! You don't have to like who your bro. in law has chosen to love. Just watch an episode of bridezilla and you'll know you are not the first and you won't be the last. If you just absolutely cannot bring yourself to support him whole heartedly (which is in essence what you've chosen if you don't support the woman he loves) then you should gracefully decline to be in the wedding party. Being a bridesmaid, while a great honor, is a heck of a lot of WORK isn't it? hahaha

You may offend more than just one person and you may not hold the popular opinion and you could very well be jeopardizing your future relationship with your bro-in-law.

If you've already decided that the reason for your lack of support concerning the marriage is just not worth all of that, then the only way you can be "all smiley smiley" is to come to terms with just that; it's not worth it. Being able to smile and go on with the show even when you don't support the show itself is a gesture of unconditional love and support and comes from that inner peace with yourself.

It's impossible to really know what you should do without knowing what  it is that you "really think" about the wedding. But I've covered the only three possible scenarios I could think of and will close with saying this; there are certain times when you should bite your tongue and find it within yourself to smile out of love and support and other times when you absolutely should not be expected to support anything at all. Whichever case you're in, I wish you the best of luck!

Answer 3

Be the bigger person. Whatever your feelings about the bride, its not your wedding and no one asked you for your opinion. The sooner you realize that, the easier it will be to keep your trap shut.

Is it that hard for you to smile and have a good time? People do it all the time-- a neighbor you dont like, a difficult customer at work, etc. Just go through the motions and be nice.  

Answer 4

Just bite your tongue and concentrate on something nice - maybe the flowers are really beautiful, or the music is lovely, or your hair looks especially awesome. Be mature - it's cruel and classless to use someone's wedding to make a statement about how you feel about them.