How to be a good partner?

Question

Most of the time I feel I am not good enough to my husband. He is a very good man, I know he loves and I love him too. Why I dont feel satistied with him when we are having s*x. I feel I am a sinner. I really dont know what to do. I am not longing or looking for another guy but I dont feel right the way I feel about him right now. Is love fading away. I just dont get my self. I feel ashame to my self. I feel like I am starting to hate my self. what do I do

Answer 1

Try to think of the love you have and relax and try spicing up your s*x life. Is it boring or just horrible? Do you love him? What made you love him Did you ever like the s*x?  

Answer 2

To me it sounds like you need to find yourself, your likes and dislikes that are apart from your spouse. It's ok not to be joined to the hip 24/7 you know.

In regards to the bedroom, well listen to what he likes, I'm sure he lets you know and if he doesn't -well ask him.

Answer 3

Sound like your feeling some deep spiritual issues and some self image issues.

I would spend some time in your Bible and sit down and build a more spiritual relationship with your husband...

Seems when the insides get fixed, all the outside problems fix themselves...

God Bless.

EDIT: Please don't start using anti-depressants as a way to fix you... if you believe in "sins" then you know the correct way to healing.

Answer 4

You sound depressed.  Feeling not good enough, dissatisfied, shame, and self hatred are all symptoms of depression.  Please see a doctor and ask about antidepressant medication.  They work very well these days, have few side effects, and are not addictive.

Answer 5

can you please mail to me: [e-mail]

Answer 6

you answered your own problem..."I'm starting to hate myself"  Don't, start to love yourself.  You could be stressed out from work, pregnant, or just need a break, a change in life.  Don't be so hard on you, you are wonderful, gorgeous, and you husband is madely in love with you.  Work on you and do more for you and not so much for your husband.  Do things that you know will make you happy.  Don't feel selfish or like you are shorting his end of the stick, you are actually making things better for the marriage.  Good luck