How to be aggresive?(Serious Answers Please)?

Question

I have low self-estem. I'm very self-conscience of my weight , because am over weight. People seem to always walk over me. Am not sure how I can overcome this issue, but any tips or comments from people who has perhaps experienced this would help. I was wonderiing if I got in shape , I may not be as fearful to speak my mind , I would be confident in myself , hence, I will be less likely to feel I need peoples approve, because I will be more open to speak my mind or voice my opinion.

Answer 1

Be aggressive for the right things and the right reasons.  Getting in shape to be healthier and like yourself better is being aggressive for the right reasons.  

Its amazing how getting into shape begins to change your own outlook of yourself and your tolerance of those who are unkind, inconsiderate, and openly mean.

Answer 2

you just have to be a stronger person and stand up for yourself. My best friend is super skinny and fit and she still gets walked over. It isn't your weight, you are using that as a scapegoat. You need to know when to tell people to stick it. Just be braver, trust me you won't regret it later.

Answer 3

to be frank,being overweight does Noe necessarily be the factor that cause you to feel that way.....maybe it does most of the time,but still it doesn't mean that being in such a condition is a total disaster...i mean,you're still alive aren't you? The problem here is maybe you have fear in facing the crowd....the public......the one solution that worked for me is by not looking at them.....try to totally ignore what their perceptions towards you might be......let that be up to them,but never try to impress the world....no one is able to satisfy the needs of EVERYONE.....just do what you gotta do,that'll be enough......i leave the rest to you.......

Answer 4

It sounds like you are looking for dramatic personality changes with a weight loss. Often it is problems like depression and lack of self confidence that contribute to weight gain. You need to understand the full picture. Dr Phil puts out a book that explains these connections. I would also think you may be looking to be more assertive rather than more aggessive. There are courses you can take on assertiveness. I was once overweight and I found by keeping myself busy and my mind occupied it helped. You have to make a decision to change and stick with it surround yourself with things that will move you in the direction you want to go. Books ,courses, gyms and beleive you do have the power to change your life. I did.

Answer 5

What IS your opinion?  Does being overweight embarrass you or bother you personally?  If it does then you need to lose weight and if it doesn't you need to tell people to look at their own problems and leave yours alone.  You have to determine to be agressive and follow through, do not allow people to walk on you, do not take it!  Speak your mind always and if they don't like it perhaps they will become submissive.

Answer 6

Try self defense classes.  This might help you to lose weight and gain self confidence. Good luck.

Answer 7

Get a Gym membership.

Buy a book on building self confidence.

Don't get cocky as then you will have other problems