How to be....happier?

Question

i have just been feeling a little down for the past year. i'm twelve, and i feel like i shouldn't be so sad all the time. i'm a little overweight, maybe that's it. but i have been eating healthier and exercising, but i'm still not happy. i don't want to remember my childhood this way. any help?

Answer 1

im 13, Laugh with friends, chat, tell secrets( thats always fun)

Just totally enjoy your self, your not in high school, so who cares about school work. Just have fun! do what ever feels right and SMILE that way everyone wants to be your friend!

Answer 2

haha u think you have it bad you have no idea how good you have it. my advice whenever you start to think about how sad u are think of people out there worse than you who dont have a home who are strarving injured beaten dying sick then consider everything you have that others dont count your blessings and stop feeling sorry for yourself your 12 and you have your entire life ahead of you. if you have clinical depression get checked out by a doctor and get some meds

Answer 3

Talk to people about it, open up them...

I'm so sorry. 12 is way too young to have to be this conscious of your own patterns of feelings and unhappiness...all I can say is that it will probably lead you to be well along the road to maturity before most other people.

Seriously, completely be yourself with someone and tell them exactly how you're feeling with complete honesty in great nuance: It will help relax you, it actually releases serotonin, and it will help you sort out your thoughts and feelings and discover a cause.

I hope you feel better. I spent a lot of my childhood being miserable but not recognizing it...I'm not sure which is better. I hope that your situation is.  

Answer 4

talk to people!

really.

get out in the fresh air.

im SERIOUSE it HELPS!

not in the sun.

but jsut like outside.

i go outside at night and just look at the stars.

talk to your friends.

Answer 5

If you have an issue with your weight it sounds like you are doing a great job of changing that, I'm proud of you.  Just remember, everyone has at least one truely beautiful thing about them.  Are your eyes a pretty color?  is your nose perfectly strait?  Find something beautiful about yourself!  I'm sure there is more than one thing.

I sudjest good music to get happier.  I don't know what you listen to already, but for you I think you'd like Family Force 5!  They are very livly and upbeat....and sometime pretty funny.  I'm 17 and even I enjoy them soemtimes!  

I've suffered from depression, I know how much life can hurt.  

I hope you find your happiness.

Try to find what you're passionate about!  Art? Writing?  Sports?  anything at all!  Find your passion and it will bring you joy!

If things don't get better please concider talking to your parents.  I know it can be really scary, but they can help you so much more then you know.

Good luck darling.

Answer 6

Weight - is that all that really matters in life? You could have been born doorknob, or a spider, but you happened to come into this world as a human. Isn't that enough? You've been giving this one and only chance to experience this fascinating world at it's fullest; don't waste it away worrying about your weight. You aren't mentally or physically impaired - you have a good, healthy body, even if it's just a little overweight.

As for friends at school, just be yourself. If you're trying to be popular, remember, it's not the status that counts. I'd much rather be with dorky friends and me happy, rather than be unhappy in the midst of popularity. If you don't feel comfortable with these girls, don't bother - they're not worth it. Instead, turn to your two okay friends and strengthen your relationship, for that will lead to more friendships to come in the future.

Another key to gaining friends and happiness - be confident. Don't be shy about your body, and focus on the more positive things about life. Life is a beauty contest to some - but those people never leave their imprint on the world. If you walk into school with confidence radiating out of every part of your body, you'll gain friends in no time. Think: I love my face. It is mine. I love my body, for it is mine. You should love and make do with what you have, for that is all you got. Don't waste your time wishing for something, or a body, that you'll never have.

You weren't born into this world to spend time moping around. Do something creative, and more importantly - do whatever will keep you happy.

Talk to a parent, or your school consoler if you want to discuss this problem, and they'll will be happy to assist you.

Good luck, and I hope I helped.  

Answer 7

Twelve years old is a pretty good time to be feeling as you do!  Your body is changing,  your life is changing- it's not an easy thing to go through.   Sometimes just knowing you're normal is half the battle.  Other girls may seem to have it all together,  but inside they feel much like you do!    As you discover things you enjoy doing, involve yourself with friends who laugh and enjoy life with you-  you will find happiness sneaks up and lands on you!   Worrying about being sad can be a self fulfilling prophecy!   You're putting away the things you enjoyed as a child and are finding yourself as a young lady.   Be nice to yourself!   You know if there is a bigger problem that needs help and resolution- find help if that is the case.  Otherwise try to think of it as growing pains-  and walk it out!   God bless!!