How to be more self confident! please help!!!!

Question

So, I'm a really insecure person, and i can fully admit that. like ive had eating disorders, well idk if u can even call them that cuz i was able to figure out it was bad myself, like i just used to try to make myself purge, or not eat for long periods of time so idk?

anyways i hate being so insecure and i really want to change it. i mean everyones always telling me im pretty and guys that im hot, and i always come off sounding like i want attention wen i deny them. but like i really truly dont think that.

&really im just so sick of being so insecure and trying to deal with everything and i just want to be able to accept a compliment, or realize that "hey maybe i am pretty'" or just get out there more. I want to be sure of myself. I mean im going to be a sophomore in highschool, and i really want this year to rock, and make more friends and have boys interested but i cant do that until i put myself out there.

so anyways, any ways u guys can think of, or answers or anything? ive considered professional help but i never thought it was that bad, and really my parents know about nothing lol.

so yea thanks for ure help guys :)

Answer 1

God loves you and you are beautiful to Him!  He made only 1 of you.  There is no other like you so that makes you special.  Sometimes we have to keep telling ourselves that I AM SOMEBODY, GOD MADE ME THE WAY HE WANTED ME TO BE AND I AM PERFECT BECAUSE GOD DOESNT MAKE MISTAKES!!  You will have to find the faith and belief within yourself and it is there, it is just hidden.  And do not worry about what others think or say.  You are you and it is your life and only you knows what can make you happy.

Answer 2

to tell you the truth, i was EXACTLY like you... seriously, no lie. i was weighed at 110 my freshman year and my best friend was 100 and i was so jealous and i just thought that everyone could see her as so much skinnier than me. i thought she was prettier, funnier, better at everything. the only thing i really had over her were my school grades. i mean, her mom paid me to tutor her in math, science, and global because she was almost failing all three.

last year was my sophomore year and it was the best year of my life [so far] because i confronted the problem--- i actually started wearing sort of really S****y outfits to school and while it made me feel better about myself [because i really do have a great body, i must say haha] because i got guys' attentions and things, it didnt make me feel full-out confident. because i knew it wasn't me. i am anything BUT a S****y-clothes wearer. when i felt insecure all the time, it was just jeans and t-shirt. because i kept thinking, What's the point? No one's going to notice anyway.

Then I started wearing stuff that really reflected who I am... Berets and super-high-heels with thigh-accentuating jeans that made me look taller than the 5'6'' that i was. "hippie"-skirts and aviators and weird clashes and things that made people take a second look at me and think Wow... that's a really weird outfit but it actually looks good on her. My confidence booster was my sense of style.

I'm still not fully "cured"... going into my junior year... but it's gotten increasingly better. Everyone has their own way to make themselves feel better about themselves. You just need to find the one thing that really reflects YOU. not who you want yourself to be, not who anyone else wants you to be, but who you are... the person that you're hiding from the world.

here's a list of guesses:::

music/singing/dancing

writing/poetry

makeup

talking

hair styling

becoming one with nature [thats another one of my things, too. i find my real self when i go hiking deep into the woods. or biking. or kayaking.]

Answer 3

One of the most important things in doing this (and it can be a long and difficult thing to overcome) is to try to care less about what other people think and be happy with yourself. On your own terms.