How to be nicer to my sisters?

Question

Hi. Ok, I have two younger sisters (7 and 9) and I can never seem to get along with them. We always fight. Mostly I fight with my youngest sister (I know this seems very mean). I think the reason is because we are both really stubborn and we both think that we are the ones that are right. Alot of times it is my fault because I pick fights but sometimes my sister provokes me to get mad at her. Just the other day I was just standing outside talking to my friend and she sprayed me with a squirt gun for no reason and got me wet. Another thing is that whenever my sister does something to me I feel like I have to get back at her. I go nuts if I don't. I'm not sure why this happens but I want to fix it. How do I get along with my sister? Is there any way to form a bond with eachother?

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Thanks:)

Answer 1

You're all kids, and you're siblings.  It is inevitable that you will sometimes annoy and pester and fight with each other.  But with some effort you can keep the unpleasantness to a minimum.

Since you're the oldest, you're also the most mature and capable of controlling yourself, so it's up to you to set the right example.  Instead of getting mad, look at the humor in the situation.  Laugh it off - heck, if you were the one with a squirt gun you might think it was pretty funny to squirt someone who isn't looking.  Remember, little siblings usually just want to be included in your older and more exciting activities, so offer to play with them and let them into your life.  

But you should also set clear and firm rules - if they are mean or break rules, then playtime is over, and you will go away and ignore them for the rest of the day.  Don't start a cycle of revenge, because it never ends.  Enforce fair consequences, but start each day fresh.

Answer 2

You are older and you have to grow up and act like a rational person when dealing with her.  Stop acting upset when she does things, she will see that it doesn't bother you and she will stop b/c she'll be bored.  You are her role model, don't stoop to the level of a 7 year old.  It's good that you realize that you "go nuts" when you don't get back at her.  You are young enough to correct this behavior.  This is not a good trait to carry into adulthood b/c there will always be someone who tries to provoke you and you can't get back at them or act crazy in the real world.  Here's an experiment for you........Try to be really sweet to her.  See what happens.  Be patient with her and don't react when she tries to provoke you.  Try it for a week.  I can almost guarantee you will see a change.  If you do the same things as before, you will get the same results.  Example:  If she squirts you again and gets you all wet, just ignore her or turn it around so that she feels like a dork for doing something so stupid.  Lock her out of your room, or just go where she can't be around you.