How to be patient while desperatly wanting a baby?

Question

Have you ever been so absolutely desperate for a baby? We aren't ready, or rather HE'S not ready. I am so desperate to be a mom it's making me sick that I can't have one yet. It just feel like it's time, is this my hormones doign this all of a sudden, I'm 24. It's not like my biological clock is ticking yet. It's basically all I think about and then anytime we discuss it and I talk about how I feel I just end up crying.

(lol Babysitting won't help as his kids from previous marriage live with us so I sure have my fair share of knowing what it's like to be enslaved by kids). Is there a secret pill to help me be a little more patient?

Answer 1

Ohh the joys of baby fever.

Unfortunately, there is no pill for it, athough I wish there was!  I know how you feel.  I waited about a year after realizing I was ready to be a mom, until my husband was finally open to the idea of having a child.  I had to patiently wait while I watched several of my friends get pregnant and go through their pregnancies, and have beautiful babies.  It was hard at times.

I just tried to talk myself through it.  For example, if you KNOW one of you isnt ready, then would you really want to bring a baby into a world where it might be resented because it wasnt completely wanted?  Wouldnt you rather wait until he wanted it just as much as you?

Keep in mind, however, noone is ever really ready for children.  There is ALWAYS something holding people back, whether it be finances, living situation, career, etc.  

I would just keep mentioning it to your partner and get a feel for WHEN he might be ready to try.  If you can at least get a time period out of him, then that could give you something to look forward to!

Dont worry, your time will come before you know it!

Good Luck with Everything~