How to be yourself?!?

Question

I'm never myself in front of people.

I'm usually the one sitting back watching everyone else have fun/dance so on.

I just cant bring myself to join in.

I just tell myself I have nothing to say to them and they will think im boring anyway.

How can I just be myself and have a good time?

I vote best answer :)

Answer 1

Maybe you just an introvert. You don't have to dance, 'have fun' or do these things to be yourself.

I felt like you once then I built the confidence to get up and do these things. After a couple of years I realised that it wasn't confidence that wasn't getting me up it was just that I wasn't that type of person.

Now days I am back to my usual ways; sitting there and watching others get up and dance and I don't get up and dance because I simply don't want to.

Ignore people who say that you have low self esteem, getting up and dancing like an idiot doesn't prove that your self esteem is good and believe me, I've partied and done all of that and those party types have very low self esteem and dignity.

Be yourself. Also you meet better people taking a step back. I have the best friends through falling back whereas before I'd hang around with shallow over confident types. Master the art of small talk, speaking and listening, that is how you will get to know others and find people who you feel comfortable to let yourself go to.

Also I am a performer I get up and perform and put on a front on stage because I am a performer. Some people who get up and 'look' like they are having fun in parties and talking loud and seem to be the life and soul of the party have performing personalities. They perform when they get up to make others like them. Through drama, dancing and being a musician I have witnessed this for years. According to the audience I am confident for 'getting up on stage' but that is my performance personality. Some people perform everyday to look confident.

You sound sensible anyway and don't change.

Answer 2

Be that someone else, for the chances are that other person is trying to be like you. It's gets a bit complicated at the end of the night though, when you are not sure which house to go back too. Yours or there's. Are you you or are you them or are them you or are you them. All the best, whoever you may be.

Answer 3

What you have explained is low self-esteem (makes you very shy).  You need to work on that but I don't have any advice on how to get over being so shy since I am very much the same way.  I have found that I actually enjoy sitting back and watching.  I tend to learn things about people that I normally would not and if I fit in I eventually become comfortable enough to join conversations but I still do not join in on things like dancing or playing games or things like that.

Answer 4

You can't be yourself unless you know who you are. Find that out first. However, you might be exactly what you're explaining in your question. The fact that you're sitting back could be who you are. Maybe you are a bit boring. Go out and meet some boring people and have a blast. There is nothing wrong with that if that's who you are. If you don't want to face that as a possibility, that's a whole different issue.

Take care and good luck

Answer 5

you're just a bit shy.  you need a little practice to help boost your confidence

Answer 6

well sometimes its hard to be yourself.

just watch what others do and folow them until it comes naturally.

smile alot and ask a lot of questions about them (most people love talking about themselves lol)

also just get up and dance with everyone.

remember always laugh a lot and think positive thoughts.

remeber you only live once and your here for a good time not a long time.

dont be scared to get out there.

:)

Answer 7

I always was confused about that. People say that we need to be ourselves, yet, do we really know who we are?

I think the way to discover who  you are, is just to let go. Live second by second, leaving behind the past, guilts, regrets, etc (even if it was a minute ago) and continue living the present and do whatever feels good at the moment, without worries.

Trust me, the real you is going to come out.

Answer 8

drink a lil bit of alcohol