How to beat loneliness suggestions?

Question

I feel lonely majourity of the the time, i have my daughter but when she goes to bed thats it me and the television, I don't have any friends, i never go out and let my hair down I go to work, *** home spend time with my daughter and then I'm by myself I ahve friends at work but thats it there only work mates I just don't know what to do and feel like this is it for me carnt c anyway out any suggestions i no am sad so no need to leave any horrible messages I'm just lonely hope sum1 can give me sum advice 8) x*x

Answer 1

What you should do is find a hobby that you like. Instead of watching TV, you could try something you enjoy doing like writing, sewing, or painting (whatever you like!). Also if it is not to late outside, you could go walking to clear your mind. Also, instead of people just being the people you work with, ask them to go out to get a drink with you or for some lunch. You need to put yourself out there so you won't be lonely anymore. Hope the helps!

Answer 2

You can get help !  There are many people suffering like you and feel like they live in a box and can't get out.  In fact there are a lot of people living like that. Things will never be perfect but you can learn to

make things better by just changing your thought patterns and seeing what good you do have. We as Americans at the worst, have life better than most of the world.  Of course that doesn't make you feel any better, I know.

All I know to do is to try and refocus your thoughts and change the world you live in.  That's all any of us can do.

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Answer 3

If you have hobbies or sports that you enjoy doing go out and find others that do it too (like at basketball courts if you like basketball or a book club if you like reading). Umm you could go to an online matchmaking site to find a husband too haha. It sounds like you are a single mother, that is why I suggested the singles site.

Answer 4

The most effective way to combat loneliness is to keep busy.  Use your quiet time for things that you find enjoyable.  Take up a new hobby.  DO start going out and letting your hair down.  Ask one of your coworkers if they'd like to get together one evening for dinner or something.  Become involved in community activities, support groups, volunteer your time at a homeless shelter, crisis center, senior center or even your daughter's school/daycare.  

Finally, have you thought about maybe getting some counseling?  I know it sounds cliché but sometimes just having an impartial person to vent to can help you feel better.

Good luck to you.

Answer 5

It sounds like you need to get out more. When you can get a sitter, go out. You said you have work pals, why don't  you make plans to have drinks after work or on payday. If drinking isn't your thing try to find hobbies/interest that will absorb your attention. You know I try and be like those people that say they are alone but not lonely. Thats because they like being by themselves and they do stuff alone that pleasures them. Try reading, sewing, gardening, photography...network online and try and meet people with similar interest. Go out for a walk. Make small talk at the store, etc...If you believe in a higher power, talk to him/her. You are never really alone. God loves you. Just get out, maybe if your daughter had a play friend you and her mother/father could be friends also...

Answer 6

I am sorry you feel so bad! I wish I could help. I actually enjoy time alone because I seem to get so little of it. My advice to you is to join a club or organization that has regular meetings or get-togethers, or to volunteer to help others in some way (hospital, animal shelter, church), or to get involved in politics (they always need workers), or to find a hobby or cause you really believe in and try to meet others who share your interest. Before long you will meet some people who can possibly become friends. In the meantime, you could keep yourself busy with solitary activities like sewing, writing, reading, painting, etc etc. I hope you soon feel better. Good luck to you!