How to become confident?

Question

hey, my name is imran, i have really low confidence, and was wondering if someone could please help me, i have just recently started an acting course which has helped me abit, but i am still really stressed out, when i am at home i am so happy and confident, but when i am at college i am really shy and dont talk to anyone, everyone in my class is so happy and they dont care bout what other people think, i really want to be like them but dont know how, can someone please help me, thanks!!!

Answer 1

ive just started college and im quite shy and dont like to approach people. i cant say anything else apart from just go for it. there was a pretty girl stood on her own and usually i wouldnt talk to her (and then hate myself after for it) but i thought f*ck it, and i asked what lessons she was taking. after that i was fine and we chatted. you should chat to someone quickly before you get known as a shy guy. find someone who looks approachable and dont look back. smile too :)

Answer 2

First, know yourself so you know what you are dealing with.  Go to this website and take the free test and learn reams!

http://kts2.personalityzone.com/user/reg...

     Once you've taken the test and have your 4-letter personality/temperament designator, go here: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Myers-brigg...  and scroll down to the paragraph titled: "Type dynamics and development" and look to the right at the rectangle titled "The Sixteen Types" and find your four-letter type and click on it, and read about yourself!  If you answered the questions on the test honestly and accurately, you'll be amazed at how well you're described!

Next, if you are introverted, which I strongly suspect, you need to learn to work around it when necessary (like going to school and being in groups, etc.)  Get this book, read the initial chapters so you get the picture, and then DO the written exercises (not hard, just take some work).  Its tools are powerful, if you will work at it.

http://www.amazon.com/Ten-Days-Self-Este...

Confidence comes by convincing yourself that you can depend on yourself to come through in difficult circumstances.  So when you see that you have done something well--anything!--celebrate privately.  When you mess up, learn from it and move on as quickly as you can manage.  Put it out of mind.

Realize, too, that introversion is not bad. Extroverts get their energy from other people; introverts from within, from themselves.  It's just two different modes of living.  Unfortunately, society is set up mainly for extroverts.  Hence your need for learning to deal with group circumstances.

Answer 3

being confident is excepting yourself for both your strength and weaknesses becuase that makes who you are.last year i was going through the insecurity phase and i was so self centered thinking the world revolved around me when the truth is that it didnt.know that life isnt about you...it never was..its about all of us =).

confidence come from within and to tell you the truth i became confident by all the bullshyytt i been through lol.

i learned alot from past mistakes.,....trying to fit in...being someone im not..all that XD.

know your strengths and weaknessess,except it,love yourself,and speak your oppinions to show people what you're all about.no reason to hold back when they dont care if you do or not.

Answer 4

Just do it!  Life is a dance, enjoy it while it lasts.  Woulda ~ Coulda ~ Shoulda's won't take you anywhere!  Follow your heart and you'll be fine.