How to become confident without seeming cocky??????????

Question

i'm 13 and want to have more confidence in myself and my looks. At home I'm crazy and loud but at school I'm more shy. This year when I to back to school I want to be like I am at home but I dont want to seem cocky over confident or obnoxious.

Ex: people say if you tell yourself you are pretty you will be more confident. Would this make you seem cocky?

Answer 1

That wont make you cocky. ********* isn't confidence, ********* is thinking you are better than anyone else. Cocky things to say would be like:

Person 1: Oh, Inci P! You look amazing today!

Incy P.: I know!

Being confident would be just giving them a smile and saying: Thanks! You too!

Also, hold your head high and don't be afraid to make eye contact :]

Answer 2

You know what I do? Before I get to school I repeat over and over in my head that im cute and confident. I find it really helped because after a while I started to see myself as more attractive, and with that brought confidence.

So no I don't think it's cocky, and honestly, you've probably heard this before, but you just have to talk to people that you wouldn't normally, like if someone you don't normally talk to asks you a question in class, reply with the longest possible answer and smile!

Good luck! :)

Answer 3

confident is a feeling, not something you talk about. feel good about yourself and s***w what anyone else thinks about you. be yourself and no one else. most importantly, LOVE yourself. however, dont talk about it on and on and on, example: im sooooo good at swimming, i could probably beat anyone in a race, and im so pretty, i am like someone on a magizine, i could easily pick up any guy and, even any girl!

thats just rediculous, huh? i dont think itd be good to even feel that way haha, so the feeling does matter. just value yourself, see your true talents, and treat yourself to something every other week.

people will pick up your confident vibes, and want to be around you.

have fun this year in school : )

Answer 4

Confidence is achieved more & more everyday. It won't just pop out of thin air. If you walk around tooting your own horn thinking your hot, you'll seem dumb & cocky. However, if you start with small things, like maybe you play clarinet really well, start there. Telling yourself you're pretty would work too, but really, it's a commitment to yourself, not something you force upon yourself.

Answer 5

in my opinion confident people are born with it, it just comes natural, because it means your opinionated and stand up for what you believe in, but if you want to be like that, well take up speech class or debate, or just  speak up about things,dont just sit in class and chill, answer questions and such.  people are drawn to confidence like magnets:}

Answer 6

I don't agree with the person above about being born with it-- Its not something your born with!!!

To feel confident you have to love yourself and your body and treat yourself and others with respect!

To show others your confidence and make it shine with out looking cocky or look like you think your hot stuff do this:

1. Smile at people if you find each other looking at each other and be smiley all the time and when other ppl look at you -- smile! It seems like a really little thing but it goes along way because it shows them your interested in what there saying and your not bored which makes you more out going (because it sounds like your confident but don't know how to show it ) and if you don't smile people might think your a snot!

2. Be confident by doing the things im telling you.

3. Stand up tall- Do I sound like your mom :) haha- but really if you slouch it looks like your unsure of your self or shy/and unconfident. Try keeping your weight destriputed evenly on both feet to.

4. Be friendly to others and act like your interested in what there saying- other people like talking about themselfs so ask them a lot about them so you seem friendly!

5. Act silly and be yourself but you seem more confident if you don't act stupid silly and flirty to get attention if you know what I mean-- It just looks like your trying to get attention- Don't strive for attention ...earn it and you'll get it and be "popular" if your kind to others and present yourself in a differnt way

6. EYE CONTACT!!!

If you want to do confident builders try

1. Looking in the middle and finding 5 things you love about your body

2. Write down words that describe you and words you want people to think of when they hear you name and strive for it and figure out how to do it.

3. Get exersice and lots of sleep and water!

4. Smile it makes you feel confident

5. Wear clothes your comfy in!

-- Don't tell your self your pretty in front of others - be modest

Also bring a makeup bag with a brush, toothbrush and paste, razor, pony tales, mini straighter, etc. common stuff you get ready with so that on a day you might have been on a rush and missed a spot shaving- you will be able to fix it up and won't worry about that and you'll feel more confident

Pack a snack like and apple and a reusable water bottle and nurish your self so you can feel your best and act it too!!

Have a great year being more confident !!

Best of luck !!!