How to become more confident?

Question

I get very shy around people unless I'm with my friends, and I get really shy around boys even if I'm with my friends. I think it's because I had speech problems and had to take speech, but I still have some speech problems. Also if I get really nervous around people my body stiffens and I twitch. Is there any way to fix this, or boost my self confidence? Please help I'm about to be starting school in 4 days, and I want to be more popular this year.

Answer 1

Think To yourself I am wonderful...What ever problem you have or had  someone else has or had it.. There is something special about all of us.

Answer 2

It doesn't matter how popular you are.  What does that give you?

If you don't like yourself for who you are, then nobody else is going to respect you.  

Just be yourself.  Don't change for the worse because you wanted to be more popular.

To be honest, some people are shy.  That isn't anything to do with confidence.  Some people don't like to talk a lot.  That isn't anything to do with confidence.

Answer 3

I'm not sure how old you are but I can relate. Not only did I have speech problems growing up but what made it worse was that the school's speech therapist would come to your class to pick you up for a session. Everyone knew it was because of speech problems.

I'm not going to be like most on here and say forget about being more popular, I'm thinking they forgot what school was like.

I think you should improve your speech because you have a desire for improved speech for you. I don't know if good speech increases your chances at being more popular. If that were the case, then the brainiac of your class who probably has the best speech/grammar would be the most popular, correct?

You asked how you could be more confident and it's all in your attitude.

The people around you can sense that you are self-conscience about your problem. If you work on your speech personally but not worry about it, then others will know that you're not worried about it.

In other words, if you don't care, neither will they.

Answer 4

Don't worry about being 'popular.' Just focus on being more social. Take a deep breath before you approach people. Don't think negatively and think of all that can go wrong, just be confident while approaching them. Smile and hold your head up high. Remember we all have our own qualities about us that make us unique. Realize yours and embrace them. There is no reason to need to be popular. Use your head, the popular crowd does s*x/drugs/alcohol. You don't need to do those things and also the popular crowd ignores their friends and is only concerned with a social status. You don't have to be like that. Just become a little more confident, and you'll be good to go.

god bless:]

Answer 5

I would practice in small steps.

One thing you could do is go to a store, if you have to buy some thing, try talking to the cashier.

Also, when you first enter the store, and the greeter says hi to you, say hi back, maybe even ask them how they're doing and move on.

Since you only have four days, this could be a quick and easy to practice talking to strangers.

Don't force it.

For example, when I go to stores, if someone greets me at the door, I'll respond in kind to what they say. If the greeter says Welcome to (whatever store) I'll just say How's it going?

And when I go to buy stuff at the counter, and the cashier says, Hi, how are you doing? I'll respond with the same, and say, Hi, how are you?

Or if they say, did you find what you needed, and I'll say, Yes, I did, thanks.

Some cashiers make small talk (I also want to get that CD, or, that's a great movie), and that would give you the opportunity to chat.

Just go with the flow, don't think TOO much about it, because that could make you more nervous.

I'm not always very talkative as I could be shy at times, too, and when nervous I don't speak so well. I have some small speech problems, or at least I think I do, which makes it worse when I think too much about that.

Another small thing you could do is call up stores, ask for an item. That will force you to talk and respond.

I hope these tips work for you. Good Luck!

Answer 6

It doesn't matter what people think about you. It matters what you think about yourself. Everytime you look at yourself in the mirror, say 5 things that you like about yourself. It can be looks or personality. And no repeats. It'll boost your confidence. Believe me. I used to have a problem around people and twitch like that too, but as I got older I started to understand that confidence is not what you are, its what you think you are. If you think youre all that and you have confidence regardless of your imperfection, that'll strike people's attention, not your speech. I'm not saying to become conceited, just boost your self esteem. Don't even worry about popularity either. Popularity has a lot of problems in itself. A lot of it involves hurting people who had the same problem that you had with confidence, and not standing up for those people is just wrong. Not all of it, but a lot of it. It makes you have to be like everyone else. It's not always fun to be with the popular crowd, because then you get pressured to do things that you know are wrong and everything. Everyone strives for popularity and to be accepted, but don't let it get to the point where you have to stop being yourself.