How to break up with him without hurting his feelings?

Question

I have never loved anyone in this whole world as much as him. Unfortunately, his mom knows about our unusual relationship and doesn't want him to keep company with me. I know his mom does that bc she cares about his studying and his life. Obviously, she loves him a lot, so do i. But they are having a conflict bc of me. I don't want their love to be broken down. I have to break up with him, should I? If yes, how to do that without hurting his feelings? If no, what should I do, keep going or.....?

Answer 1

i don't think you should break up with him just because of his mom. if you both love each other, no one should come in the middle of your relationship. maybe you should just try talking to your boyfriend about how you're feeling. tell him that you're considering to end this because you don't want the relationship with his mom to be ruined because of you. just tell him how you feel and go from there

Answer 2

its very hard situation but in time like this

i think its mostly best if you just take a break.

i know its hard and i wouldn't take a break ether

but you've gotta do whats best for both you. maybe

some day just not now you'll be with him. if you

love him that much wait for him. its worth something...

Answer 3

Hi,

As I believe ...love is given and forgiven , sacrifice...but also you must fight for your love to keep it forever...try to satisfied his mother , discuss with her about his future and provide good evidence that you want to make him happy , from other side do you love a man?real man? in this case he should solve this problem with his mother , finally it is your life and your future .....cheers and God bless you

Answer 4

The age bracket makes a difference here but you didn't include that so assuming that you are 18 or close to either side of it then the problem here is the mother ,,,, It's very commendable and shows maturity on your part to be willing to sacrifice in his behalf but it's not a problem that you should have to deal with or take responsibility for because the problem isn't you at all to begin with ,,,,  There are mothers now and then that interfere with their childs social life where they shouldn't ,,,, Some make a serious problem of it by trying to bully or dominate their son and sometimes even resort to tears to maintain control ,,,,Some mothers try to relive their own childhood through that of their children ,,,, Some try to use resentment guilt or loyalty as a tool to maintain control ,,,, The method or ploy they use might vary but the bottom line is always the same ,,,,Some mothers have even driven their son to suicide ,,,,

This is going to continue until your boyfriend stands up for himself and tells her that he's old enough to make decision on his own where his social life is concerned ,,,,If he's 18 or older then it's past time for him to do this ,,,,  No one including his mother can live his life for him or make his decisions or his mistakes ,,,,  It's not his mother he will marry if and when the time comes so his mother should not expect to be able to make the decisions on who he should or shouldn't  be involved with ,,,,  Usually with a mother like this NO ONE will ever be good enough for her son ,,,,

There are some guys that knuckle under to their mothers influence and control and never leave home and wind up 40 years old or older when mother finally passes away and they are alone and basically too old to start a family of their own because they allowed themselve to be dominated by mother ,,,, You said he and his mother are in a conflict because of you ,,,, Well that's not entirely true ,,,, Where the mother is concerned it's not just about you it's about anyone that would be in your position and represent a competition for his attention,,,, You might be the catalyst for the conflict but you aren't the reason ,,,,    

As I said earlier this is his problem and it's going to get worse before it gets any better ,,,,  It's going to continue until he gets fed up and finally puts his foot down where his mother is concerned and end this conflict between them by telling her she's out of line and to stay out of his social affairs ,,,, How ugly it gets and for how long depends on his mothers stubbornness but once she realizes she can't control or dominate him things will calm down ,,,, He's going to be around allot longer than his mother is so it's his decisions he should live with not hers because he could very easily wind up like that 40 year old guy,,,,

So should you leave him?,,,, I don't think so ,,,, It just might put more stress on him and create more resentment between him and his mother ,,,, It might curb the conflict between them but it wouldn't remedy the problem or the cause,,,, As long as his mother feels that she's in complete control the problem will always be there ,,,, Your breaking up with him would solve nothing  ,,, All you can do is just be there for him as best you can and try to support him ,,,, It might be a good idea to discuss this problem with him though ,,,, It could very well be that because he's so close to it he can't see what he should do to put a stop to it ,,,,    

If nothing else let him read all the answers you've gotten in reply to your question ,,,, It just might be that all he needs is a wake up call ,,,, Give all this some thought and have a talk with him ,,,, There's no practical reason why either one of you should have to suffer just because of a jealous mother ,,,,    Yoda told you this ,,,,,//