How to control nerves? moving out of state?

Question

Im 21 and moving out of state and far from home and family. Im getting really anxious but its making me sick. cant sleep all i think about are the what ifs. What if the car breaks down? how will i afford a new car? what if i hate my apartment? its so stupid. i mean life should be an adventure. im doing a series of new cities over the next couple of years while i finish my undergrad and im getting anxious and scared. how can i calm my nerves. this is the biggest step in my life.

Answer 1

Anxiety is normal . It keeps us sharp and prepared . It is only bad when you allow it to stop you from doing something you would really like to .

1. For every "what if ... something bad" there is a what if ....something good .

2. When you get "frazzled" Take a deeep breath . Hold it for 3 seconds and let it out very slowly through your nose . Repeat 3 x .

3. Give yourself some calm triggers . A drop of peppermint oil on your upper lip , a square of dark chocolate , a special song ( Try Strange Rivers by John Stewart ) .

4. Break situations down into smaller parts . Take em on one at a time .

5. Exercise . It calms you by putting your body in balance , and your mind will be less fearful if it can depend on a healthy body !

Answer 2

All major life changes can do this so you are not on your own in this. You could try taking a natural herbal remedy for stress/anxiety,nervousness called Valerian. It can be bought over the counter in a Herbalist shop.  I do wish you well in your new life.

Best wishes and good luck. UK

Answer 3

Worrying is a bad habit, you need to overcome it like any other bad habit. Try to modify the factors under your control, that is the only thing you can do.  From  http://mshn.org/worry.html

Answer 4

Well thumbs up for doing something with your life!

But chill.  I know how hard that can be.  Can you afford to get a massage?  a lot of massage schools will hook you up for like $25 or something.  

You could talk with your doc about some meds, but it's not always necessary.  But if you have a seriouse panic disorder, some meds may be necessary.  Having a panic attack while driving sucks, and a xanex will fix you in 3-5 minutes.  

not that I'm saying you should go on drugs.  

I would primarily recomend to go to the gym.  that is a great release for me.  that and my guitar.  

h**l...if your around DC, i'll give you some info on one of my shows.

good luck.  

s.