How to control your kids

Question

i am a 31 year old women who needs some advice. i have an out of control son that is 7 years old. i have recently put him on medication. it has helped a little mainly with his OCD but as for his temper and behavior i dont know what to do. i have a friend that works for cps and she told me as long as you dont go overboard you can spank on the behind. i have tried that as a LAST resort but i dont anymore because it doesnt work and he laughs at it. i have tried timeouts by putting him in a corner but all he does is kicks and punches the wall. he is getting violent. i have tried taking his toys and toons but that doesnt work. i dont want to hear about bad parenting because i think i am d**n good. he is getting a good education, very healthy i go to all of his games etc...i am at my wits end about what to do about his behavorior. i need advice please! thank you.

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Answer 2

The best advice that I can give you is to talk to him. It may not work right away but eventually it will correct his bad behaviour. Not all of it, I mean kids are learning how to behave and they will mess up of course. With my son I find that when he gets upset and lashes out, talking is the best way to get through to him. you need to get down to there level and explain EVERYTHING to them. Keep up with the time outs. Weather he is kicking or not. You should tell him that is not acceptable and if he keeps it up, he will go to his room. Talk to him when you are calm. Spanking does not help, it makes things worse.

Like I said before, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk. Communication is the key. he needs to be able to tell you how he is feeling and why.

Good luck!

Answer 3

The problem is lack of consistency.  As for your friend's credntials with CPS I wouldn't trust what she says...if your son were to go to school and mention that you hit him (doesn't matter how hard or how often) the school would, by law have to report you to CPS.  You've changed disciplines on him which has confused the poor child at best.  Taking things away that he takes for granted and that he knows he will eventually get back isn't going to work.  All he has to do to get what he wants back is to behave, then he can go back to misbehaving.  He needs consitency and discipline.  Yeah okay so he hits and kicks the wall...He does that to get your attention, ignore it.  Let him hit and kick the wall.  Once he stops getting a reaction out of you he will get tired of hurting his hand or his foot.  As far as parenting.  It doesn't matter that he is getting a good education or that you show up to all of his games...you haven't given him any consistent discipline.  

Answer 4

I'm interested in what you mean when you say you've taken his toys away and it doesn't work...because I would suggest you start a behavior boot camp for Junior.

Buy a lockable foot locker, and put all of his toys--including game consoles or other devices--in the box...You may need more than one box if your son is like mine and has a ton of toys.  Let him know--preferably in writing--what the rules of the house are, and what is your behavior standard for him.  Start him off with at least one week with no toys or games, and you may also want to take away television priveleges.  If he complains of boredom, assign a chore for him to occupy himself.

After one week, he should be pretty desperate to get things back.  Let him know that now he has the opportunity to start earning back his things.  Make a chart and divide it into hours.  For every hour he's good, give him a sticker, smiley face, or a check...whatever.  Decide how many good hours he has to have in a day to earn back a toy (I would say at least 8 to 10).  If he meets his goal, tell him that after he is in his jammies, teeth are brushed, and he's ready for bed, he may come to the lockbox and pick one toy to have back.  Repeat daily until he gets it all back.  Afterwards, when he's naughty for a day, start removing toys one by one.

BTW...I also would suggest making your son "buy" television and video game credits through good behavior...Perhaps one hour if he picks up his room without complaining, or gets all of his stickers for the day.