How to convince my mom.......

Question

Every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday 9:00-3:00 my mom works (she started part-time this summer have maternity leave). That means I'm home with most of my siblings (9, 6, 4, and 2). Thankfully my mom drops the 2 month old twins off to my aunt, who loves to take care of them.

My mom never lets me have a friend over while I do it. That would be so much easier on me if a friend could help. That way I could put the Jake (2) to bed without worrying about someone getting hurt downstairs. Or I could make lunch without having to break-up the fights. How do I explain this to my mom???

Answer 1

How old are you?  It sounds like your mom is giving you way too much responsibility.  You have the right to be a kid as well.

BTW, I don't know if it's against your religion or not but you might want to suggest that your mother use birth control if she can't afford to stay home and raise her kids.

Answer 2

I guess have your mom interview the friend that would be helping you.  show that they are trusted.  and I guess your mom would worry about having to pay your friend for helping too.

Answer 3

Why don't you show her this Question?

Maybe she'll see your point of view.

Answer 4

You just need to tell her that you need help watching all the children and it to much for you to handle by yourself.  

Answer 5

well, u should not really drag a friend into that. you should hire a babysitter, u should not have to do that.

Answer 6

Prove to your mom that your friend is capable of helping while she's home.  

Answer 7

It's about maintaining focus on the kids.  You're less likely to be a good guardian while you have a friend over.  Your friend will help you, sure, but let's be honest, a fair chunk of that time will be devoted to talking, texting friends, etc.  Without a friend over, you'll be less distracted.  Too much can go wrong.

I'm sorry, I know this isn't the answer you wanted, but your mom isn't likely to change her mind.

Answer 8

its so wrong of your mother , she decided to have the children she should either look after them or pay some one else to but its not your responsibility

just refuse to care for them

Answer 9

just like that

Answer 10

just tell her what you just said.. im sure she just doesnt want you to get side tracted with your friend and forget about the kids or something... but hey it will all be over soon.. school is coming!

Answer 11

whats her reason? i completely agree its okay to have a friend over its also kind of unfair that u have to stay home taking care of your siblings everyday she should let you have a friend over at least so that you also have some fun. plus you need help!

Answer 12

don't tell her

i don't

make the kids promise not to either bribe them or something

Answer 13

What's the reason?  you said she had a good reason...what is it?  You've convinced me...have you told your mother exactly what you've told us?  How old are you?  I mean I know family has to stick together but taking care of 4 children is a tough job!  A really tough job!  To tell you the truth I think your Mother is being really hard on you making you baby sit your 4 siblings.  1 or 2 ok, or 4 if they werent SO young.  I mean if she can't have another relative there with you...then surely you should be able to have a friend to help you and keep you company.  As long as you still pay attention to the kids and dont just hang out with each other and as long as your friend is a responsible decent person....then I don't see any probs.

  Tell your mother that!  :)  Good luck

Answer 14

tell it like it is