How to convince my wife for having s*x with me in the first night of my wedding.?

Question

plz answer me tmrw is my wedding.

Answer 1

If she really wants to marry you and has been saving herself for the wedding night, there shouldn't be a problem. She'll want it as much as you do.

If your marriage has been arranged, guess you can either give her time to get used to you or tell her she has no choice and just have your way with her. I shudder when I write the latter advice.

This is by all means one of the weirdest questions I've read on Y!A.

Answer 2

Hopefully, her mother, sister, and friends have talked to her, and she knows that it is expected eventually.  Remember that this is a big deal for her, and she is probably terrified.  YOU are responsible for making her feel safe and loved, and you should accept that maybe s*x won't happen on the first night.  If she is very scared, maybe you will just kiss on the first night, maybe more then second night, and then maybe s*x on the third night.  If you force her when she is scared, you could permanently damage her trust in you, cause her to resent you, and it could seriously mess up your s*x lives for the rest of your marriage.  If, on the other hand, you are patient and go SLOWLY (even if that means no s*x on the very first night), you could set yourself up for awesome s*x for the rest of your lives.

Answer 3

If this is an arranged marriage, and you've never been intimate, wouldn't it be better to take it easy and get to know each other first? No need to push. You'll be married for the rest of your lives...

Answer 4

good things come to those who wait.

it'll be worth it :)

Answer 5

You know, I've actually heard that a lot of people don't have s*x on their wedding night. In America, anyway. It doesn't have the same meaning to it as it used to. It used to be so romantic. The couple saved themselves for each other to consummate their marriage on their wedding night...buuuut, nowadays everyone's doin' it long before they get married, if they ever do. But the stress of before the wedding and the partying of the reception and then if there's any traveling afterwards, a lot of people are just too tired. But like everyone else said, you should not have to convince her. I swear, guys have no idea how to get a woman in bed.

Answer 6

It is natural process and there is no need of telling anything. If you want, it automatically happens. Do not hurt your mind unnecessarily.

Answer 7

Usually it just kinda happens....does she not want to have s*x? If she doesn't then don't make her, but if she just hasn't mentioned it she might be nervous. Don't worry about it just be romantic and try to coax her to bed.

Answer 8

If you have to convince her, you're being too selfish, or she's not ready to commit to marriage, or isn't ready for an unexpected pregnancy, or all of the above.

You should try to please her, and she should try to please you.  If you only want to please yourself, or she doesn't want to please anybody, or she's not ready to conceive, the two of you have a lot to learn, and talk about - which should have been discussed months ago.

Answer 9

It should happen naturally! You shouldn't have to "convince" her!!!

Answer 10

Why do you have to convince her?? And if you do, should you be marring her? Is this an arranged marriage? Then you will have to do some convincing, But what ever you do don't push her, this will take some time let her get to know you , s*x will come in good time you can't force her.

Answer 11

lol if you have to convince her you probably shouldn't marry her... Seriously tough you should have s*x for awhile before you get married... If the s*x sucks you'll really be kicking yourself

Answer 12

It should just naturally happen. If you haven't had s*x before you were married, usually the wedding night is the time when you both can't wait to make love for the first time. Good luck, I'm sure it will work out.

Answer 13

u dont have to convince each other.when u love each other, it should happen naturally,as they said.

Answer 14

She doesn't want s*x on her wedding night?  I'll be kind of worried if I were you, what on earth did she marry you for if not for love?

You do know this woman don't you?  You have like, been dating and engaged and all that?  Otherwise its just wrong, I feel sorry for you both if its been arranged for you.

Answer 15

You shouldn't have to convince her.

Its your wedding night isn't it natural to want to make sweet passionate love with your life partner?

If you having to convince her now how is your sexual relationship going to work through your marriage?

Are you sure you are marrying the right woman???

Answer 16

You shouldn't have to convince her! If for some reason she doesn't wanna have s*x its because she probably doest love you. Sorry!

Answer 17

Can't do it through talking. Listen to her stories of the wedding, be patient. But all the time, be holding her hand, rubbing her arm or leg gently. Get her to relax from the craziness of the wedding day. Kiss her periodically, etc. It will happen.