How to convince my wife not to work after the birth of my kid?

Question

My Wife is insisting she would go to work even after delivering...even though we decided her not work before marriage... I suspect she is not comfortable with my parents...But wondering how to convince her not work as the Kid definetly needs Moms presence atleast for the first 3 years

Answer 1

It's not the worst thing in the world for your wife to go back to work.  I have 3 kids and a full time job.  My kids seem to be doing just fine.  I work during the day and my husband works in the evenings. We don't get to see much of each other. On our days off we are always together doing something as a family.  It's not the quantity of time it the quality of time spent together.  But for all it's worth I would be the first person to stay home but can't for financial reasons.

Answer 2

You will have to work this out with her... It is her choice to work if she wants to, and you should support your wife's choice.  She may change her mind once the baby is born, I had plans to go back to work 6 weeks after.  I stayed home a year because I got so attached.

Answer 3

If you are making at least $200,000 a year.She wont need too.However if you are going to raise a child and don't make that by your self she Needs to work to help make ends meet.Also she may feel the need to do something besides raise baby's.Women are perfectly capable of working and still being excellent mom's.Trust me I worked and my kids are wonderful, responsible adults who are very well adjusted.

Answer 4

going back to work after my children were born was never an option, sure we don't have flash cars and fancy holidays, but we do have our own home, food on the table kids well clothed and not hearing second that that my child first crawled or smiled or even took her first steps from somebody else,  childcare is costly and what you may earn in wages a chunk of that goes towards childcare costs for the privilege of going back to work in the first place,

                   sadly not all grandparents would bring their grandchild up how the parents would wish and this can cause family rifts,

                  at the end of the day a happy environment with loving parents is far more important than having money in the bank, Theres time for that when your child starts school

Answer 5

What do your parents have to do with her decision to go back to work?  

Where would your child go if she were to work?  If it's daycare, there's plenty of research that shows that kids in daycare have more behavioral problems than kids who aren't in daycare.  They also get sick alot more often.  Just do some research and show her (without TELLING her what to do) why it's better for kids to be raised by a parent full time.

Is she worried about paying for things?  If so, then if you can, you should show her how finances will be handled while you only have one income.

She also just might not be cut out to be a stay at home mom.  Some women aren't.  And if she does it against her own wishes, it might turn out badly.    

My husband didn't have to convince me at all!  Just getting nervous about how we'll pay for everything, but my parents did it, so I know we can do it.

P.S.  I STRONGLY disagree with the person who says that you have to make $200k a year for your wife to stay home.  That's ridiculous.