How to cope with all these different feelings?

Question

I'm in love with this guy called scott. He's two years older than me, and the son of a family friend. I only get to see him once or twice a year but ever since I saw him a few months ago I cant stop thinking about him. My aunt has his number, but if I ask for it she'll ask why, and the whole family will know - and if it doesn't work out I would be so embarrassed! We spent most of the evening together, with his little cousin and my older sister, and their dad, but sometimes we were alone and it was quite awkward in sort of a good way, like, there was something neither of us was saying. And he is normally so quiet, but he talked to me (nervously!) quite a bit on our own, and even hugged me when my taxi came.

So, I am missing him, and I think and dream about him all the time. For the past week or two, though, another guy has been appearing in my dreams once Scott has gone or w/e... Its Danny, the ultra-cool, creative guy who I know from music group and he also helps out in my music, art and drama classes. He is about four years older than me, and waaaay out of my league, although we are very good friends and even though i am uncool compared to him he always stops to talk to me and hug me. Scott is quite nice-looking, but I like his personality more, but Danny is sooooooooooo hot...

On top of this, my best boy friend (not romantic) has recently told my best girl friend that he is in love with me! I am so worried now b/c if he asks me out, I dont want to be like that with him but if I say no we will break friends, it will be too awkward.He is very touchy-feely and flirty with me, but also sensitive and caring.

So help me! I know Scott is a hard one, but any ideas? How can I get Danny out of my head (even though I dont want to! lol), because every day I think about him more? And what about Nick, my best boy friend? How can I put him off without talking about it (coz my mate promised not to tell me and he doesnt know that i know)?

If you can help at all, thank you so much!

also danny leaves school after this year... so i will prob neva c him again... and also he's taking exams now, not my classes, so he doesnt come to music much coz of revision, so next term i prob wont c him much :-(

Answer 1

Ok right... If i were you, id take my chances with Danny... hes leaving soon anyways, whatta you got to lose? Wait is he a teacher? And id like to know ur ages... i doubt a 19 yr old would wanna go out with a 15 yr old... and he will basically want s*x... and in the long run h**l want a girl who is older and more mature... can do more stuff and knows what she wants...

Holy **** i totaly have been in ur place for the friend who wants to be more than a friend thing... i turned him down and he became MEAN! but yunno... maybe i didnt do it in the right way soo i cant help you with that one...

And for thy Scotty thing..., basically ask when hes coming back... and then be like... alright well can you ask for his msn for me (to your aunt btw... or the person who knows him). Say you want his msn so that when he comes back you can invite him out with some of your friends.

But that realy only works if hes in the samish age range. like maybe one year to 2 years. Um And. Ask for msn... or any other type of instant messenging u use... coz its less personal than fone number...

when u add him... so u dont look creepy... you could always say that you came up in a coversation between me and ur aunt, she gave me ur email adress coz she agreed that it would be cool if you could chill with some of my friends next time you come round... Less of the boring adults?? good idea no? hahah

hope i helped.. ADIOS