I'm a long distance relationship. She's 16 and I'm 17. She lives so so very far away from me, but our love is strong and true. That's one of the advantages of being in and LDR, your love and everything that comes with it is a lot stronger than a regular same place relationship.
My girlfriend turned her parents in for abuse because I advised her to. Her mom abuses her physically and mentally/emotionally. Her dad abused her sexually from a very young age until she was 14. Her mom knew about it and knew it was true but never told the authorities.
I didn't want to see her in that kind of household anymore, so I advised her to turn her parents in. She did just that. She is now in a children's center and I feel so useless. She called me from her cell phone crying and saying how she couldn’t take it anymore. I tried to comfort her but her phone ran out of minutes, it being prepaid. She has no more money to buy load for her phone. I was going to send her my debit card in case she needed to buy more load or anything else she needs, but I have no idea how I would do that. I have no idea where she is, or the number the place where she is. No contact with her whatsoever.
She sent me one last text saying child services is going to take her cell phone away because they said she is not allowed to use it. Now I can’t even comfort her, can’t even talk to her.
I recently told my mom of my girlfriend’s situation and she has agreed to help her. She is willing to take her and her sister in as her foster kids. My mom is a business woman that deals with social workers all the time so she knows how these things work. My girlfriend has told her social workers of this and has told them to call my mom since my mom is the only adult that my girlfriend is seeking support from. So my is mom was supposed to talk to my girlfriend’s social workers and discuss the matters with them, but they never called my mom. My mom is really nice and because of this I realize how much I have taken her for granted.
I feel so stupid and useless. I told her I would do everything I can for her, but there isn’t anything I can do. I went to the child services here but they were no help whatsoever. They said they can’t help me and I they couldn’t even answer my questions.
I can’t stop crying and worrying about her. I haven’t had any sleep in two day because I would stay up all night and worry about her. I would try to sleep (like now) but can’t. Today I even started coughing up blood, and passed out for a few minutes. I haven’t been eating well either, just a nibble of food here and there. Like the sleep, I just can’t eat. I even have to force myself to eat those little nibbles just so I won’t starve myself to death
There isn’t even anymore communication between us. Now I have no idea where, hot to get a hold of her, or she is or how she’s doing. I’m so worried about her. I feel so useless as her boyfriend that I can’t even call to comfort her.
I can’t help thinking that this is all my fault. I was the one that advised her to turn her parents in. Now I think I made the situation worse. I told her to try and get a restraining order on her parents. After being with her mom and dad and getting to know them on one my visits I really believe that they would kill her because of this. Her mom even threatened to kill her while I was right there listening, but now she is trying to be nice and sweet talk her daughter out of this. Judging by the last conversation we have that she might cave into her fake sweet talk.
I just hope that she doesn’t back out of this, because then child services would consider her a liar and discredit everything she says for now now. Then she would probably be put back with her parents and god knows what they will do to her. Then she would not be taken seriously by child services if she reports again. I need to talk to her, tell her to be strong, go one with it. That it’s very important that she not give up and go through with it!! I need to comfort her but I have no way to do that… I’m so useless.
I only get to see her about once a year, until I turned 18 then I would move to where she is. Last month was the last time I got to see her in person which was when I also advised her to do this. I told her that no matter what happens I will forever love her. It’s our promise to each other: Always and forever, never letting go of one another, to death and BEYOND. I told her that even if we get our communication cut because of this, that it’s ok. We will continue to love each other, and that our love will never be broken. Our hearts would find each other again. Since up to now I have talked to her for hours EVERY day, that I realizes that saying that is so much easier said than done.
I don’t know what to do… I’m so lost… I need help… all I want to be able to help her trough this, to comfort and motivate her since she really needs it, but I can’t do any of those things.
How would you guys handle my situation? Thanks for reading through all of that, I just wrote so much to relieve some stress.
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