How to cope with the loss of a loved one

Question

One of my friends died today. Death has never felt this close to me before. I feel like I've awakened from a trance like state, and for the first time seeing the world for its real and mysterious possibilities, I am deeply saddened and afraid. I wonder, what happens next? What happens to the essence of my friend?

Death is the inevitability--my parents, siblings, husband; me. How can I live this life without being paralyzed by the harsh awareness of death? How can I move on, knowing that any day may be my last? I guess I'm just really sad and pensive right now, wondering what this life is about, its purpose and meaning.

If any of you can relate, please share your thoughts.

Answer 1

sorry for your lose. seems like every week someone posts this. about well a few years ago Had a friend who was very ill,was in a coma for about 2 weeks. so i am at work one day and the phone rings and its her dad telling me she woke up,and he wanted me to hurry up and get to the hospital. so i go right away and there she is sitting up in bed and talking,so i told her you had us all scared, and she said don't be scared for me and i said why not?. turns out her heart had stopped a few days before for like 2 minutes.she told me that when she was in a coma she saw here grand mother and father, now they had been dead for about one and a half years,and they came to her and told her everything is going to be ok and that they were in this fantastic place,better then anything on earth. she did not want to come back why? because they showed her where they were, and by now she is crying because she really didn't want to come back. so i leave and tell her i will see you tomorrow, well not 4 hours later she died. but you know what? i really feel that she came back just to tell who ever would listen about her experience. so try not to feel to bad it is rough i know, but this is life for good or bad. anyway good luck.

Answer 2

It is really hard, I know when I came out of that "trance state", it hit me really hard.  But in times like this I've learned from one of my close friends who  passed away that you have to know they are with God.  I promise you, in these times seeking Him feels amazing.  You have to remember God has a bigger plan in store for you, it just hasn't happened yet.

I am not trying to preech to you, I am just saying that is is going to be hard, but if you have faith, I promise it will get you through.  Also there is Ben and Jerry, plus exercising of course.

-C

Just stay happy