Okay, I have a 20 year old son who moved back home in January to get his stuff together so he could get another apartment.
Since then he has left two jobs and has not worked since around March. He has had two different girls staying here with him. The current one is the better of the two, she has a job. The other one ended up being a psycho and we kicked her out.
I have paid approximately 2500 dollars in fines for minor in possession fines for him getting caught with alcohol. The original deal was that if I paid the fines he was to join the military and repay me out of the enlistment bonus. He had since decided that he does not want to join the military.
His girlfriend is looking for an apartment,and told him to not worry about a job until they determine where they will be living. So, his life is pretty much sleep until 1 or 2 PM. Wake up and play video games, eat, and either play with friends or his girlfriend until all hours of the morning. He flat refuses to do anything asked of him around the house and disrespects both me and my wife. He was asked to clean the kitchen and went to play football instead. When the wife asked him about the kitchen, his reply was "Sorry I did not clean it to your standards".
I do not really want to go to the extreme that my gut tells me to. Which is to show him the door and let him sink or swim. I can't take the stress and chaos that he is adding to the house any more.
So, any viable suggestion would be great.
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