How to counsel a child?

Question

His parents got separated.

Living with his father but his father don't care about him.

He always tell lies (seems it is normal for him)

Answer 1

His parents could be pathalogical liers or so used to lieing to him that he's grown acustom to doing it himself! That's really sad that he does that and that his father don't care. If his father don't care, he should not have him in his custody! I really feel for kids in situations like this or worse.

Answer 2

It would be more helpful if you had given the child's age. There are various forms of "acting out" and then there are genuine "heart" issues. Lying is usually a form of the latter where the child has not been trained up correctly. The parents are no longer together, and the father "doesn't care".

A child gets his moral foundation first from his parents. A stable, loving family is the environment in which children most easily learn about trust and integrity and character. If the family structure disintegrates, it makes it harder for the child to form the basic moral arguments that he could rely on to keep from lying.

We all needed parents to model good behavior, some unfortunately, will either require that from others, or not get it at all.

The best way to counsel a child to not lie is first, surround him/her with honest people and secondly, insure firm and reasonable discipline when the child lies. And find out the "heart" issue behind the lies.