How to cut my parents completly out of my life?

Question

They brought me nothing but misery, we never even use to get fed when we were younger we were like third world children and we were brought up in England.Lots of physical and mental abuse.I am happier away from them, my mum tried to live her life through me in my teenage years.They have ruined my life.I am picking up the pieces by moving away from them.How to compeltly stop them being in my life.Please help.

Answer 1

Move away, don't give a forwarding address. Get an unlisted telephone number. Change your name.  

Answer 2

You could have your name legally changed. Make sure that when/if you see a doctor, dentist etc. that you leave notes giving your parents names as people who are not allowed to get info on you from your files. Even tell your work. My biological mother called my dad's work all the time and he never knew because she would just call and ask if he was in to make sure he still worked there. I would strongly recommend a name change though. They are not near as expensive as you may think. And don't tell anyone where you are moving. You have to choose to start your life all over if you really want to keep them out of it.

Good luck to you!!

Answer 3

Cut the umbilical cord of your psychological attachment with them.

Answer 4

Never Burn the Bridge.For in the future you may need to cross it...What I'm trying to say is even though they did you wrong you never know when you might need them later in life even if they weren't always the best.Just forgive but never forget.If you don't forgive in turn it will eat you up as a person.

Answer 5

move to america! change your social security number. get a restraining order.

Answer 6

Just don't answer calls, I think they will get the picture. Move to another city.

Answer 7

my parents were abusive as well. i moved away and had nothing else to do with them. No contact at all.

Answer 8

emancipate yourself look it up but dont tell your parents about it i wouldnt recommend it but if youre really dead set on cutting them out this is the best way.

Answer 9

I think you would benefit from doing some work on this with the assistance of a good psychotherapist to help you cut the emotional ties to the history and figure out what you want to do in terms of moving on. You are your own person and not obligated to keep ties with anyone but cutting yourself off might cause you later regret unless you have worked through all the emotional stuff and are really sure that it's what you want to do.  

Answer 10

Never completely cut ties from your family. You never know when you might need them. BELIEVE ME. From my experience, you'll only end up making things worse. If you try and resolve the conflicting issue with your parents, you might be able to sort your differences and accept each others faults.

Good Luck! I know how you're feeling.

Answer 11

You need to sit your parents down and have this out with them.Tell them absolutely everything you feel needs to be said,even if t will hurt them,because people need the brutal truth no matter what the consequences. But if they are not prepared to listen or even reason with you,then you need to walk away for your own health and sanity.When they try to contact you,it is entirely up to you if you answer them or see them again.....

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Answer 13

I don't really know how you expect people to answer this question?  I mean if you want to cut them out, you just do it.  Move away and don't leave a forwarding address.  Problem solved!

I did it.  The past will always bother me to a degree but for the most part I've just moved on and put them behind me.