How to date my online friend?

Question

hi everyone.Need a little help her. Ive known this girl for 3 yrs online already and we chat almost everyday.We even exchanged handphone numbers and we chat via texting almost everyday too. She doesnt wants to chat on the phone(voice) though, i guess she's shy.Well, both of us love sports and we love tennis especially so we always talk about it. All the while ive been asking her out but her reply was always something different as to change the subject.=(

Then one time i told her i fancy her and would like to ask her out on a date, she tried to avoid and change the topic but after my persistent in asking the reason shes avoiding me, she told me that its not because she doesnt like me but its just she's not ready. Im 18 and shes 15 this year btw, and i really like her character. Can someone tell me what she meant that she isnt ready? Moreover she said she feel weird when i asked her this and this whole thing is just impossible to her. I dont really get whats weird so i need help in this. thank you. =)

Answer 1

My current boyfriend of a year and a half started out as an online relationship and while it worked out well for us...it doesn't always. You have to overcome so many struggles and obstacles; you have to be truly committed to the person. My boyfriend now lives in the same city as me so we were lucky but i was reluctant to get started in it; we were friends for 6 months beforehand and had met in person more than a few times but there's always that little bit of worry.

My boyfriend and i were the same age then as you and your friend now and i know that for a 15 year old and online relationship with an older guy is quite the commitment she could feel that she can't give you what you would need in a relationship fully or that it's too big of a commitment for a person her age. Plus, most kids...especially girls go through life having people tell them that they're not supposed to trust people they can't see in person and that bad things can happen so some of her reluctance can be coming from there.

I suggest asking her to seriously talk about it for a bit. Let her know where you're coming from and then ask her how she feels. If she's not ready, then respect that and don't push it on her again for awhile. If you don't want to wait, then that's fine but you have to respect her decision whatever that may be. I hope things work out for you.

Best of luck :)

Answer 2

She's kind of so called ''avoiding you'' it's because it's chatting. Perhaps she's not sure if she could trust you because she hasn't seen you face to face before?

I used to chat with this boy on online chat, and I liked him and he liked me. {Pardon me but *ahem* we're going through our puberty}

I talked to him and he talked to me, but we only were friends, nothing else. We only told each other our email addresses and not our phone numbers.

Who knows, maybe that girl already has a boyfriend? Or maybe she already has a crush on somebody else or she just doesn't want to date anyone.

People have different feelings, but perhaps she just always follow a rule that "trust those you know more than you think you do." Not exactly proper but hey, it meant that you can't trust someone until you've seen him/her face to face.

The girl probably think you might be more different than you admit you are, but hey people have different opinions!

So yeah. Don't feel bad that she's avoiding you or something. But you can continue to be friends with her.

Answer 3

isn't she a little bit too young for you? wait, you guys hev known each other fer 3 years??? meaning she was 12 years old back then???? wow! anyway, if you still wanna pursue her, i suggest for you to tried not to push her so much on the matter. give her some space to breathe and to think. wish you good luck, man!

Answer 4

hmmm probz she wants more time to think abou it ..

and since u r 18 ..i think she thinks she is too young for u..

but hope it works out well =) x