How to deal w/ a troubled 13 & 6 year old of no blood relation?

Question

On weekend's, holidays etc, all of my siblings & there families get together. My brother has a girlfriend w/ 2 boys 13&6. The 13 yr claims he talks to 13 or 14 dead ppl, he was on medication but claims his dad & mom agreed he can go off. On my nephew's birhday (he's 6) he choked him while his little brother kicked him. My nephew told his dad and when he asked the 13 yr old about it, he said 'To me pain is only a mental thing not a physical'. The 13 year old threatens his mother repeatedly and has physically hurt her. Both the kids have nasty little mouths & our children are starting to talk like them. None of my siblings trust him. I know he is not my problem but on weekends he repeatedly threatens my 10 year old brother that hes going to 'kick his ***' or 'making him pay'. He has threatned him in fromt of my mother, me and his own mother. He came up to the 3 of us and told us he is going to 'kick his ***'. In fact the one night I could hear him yelling at my nephew and when I went in there he was threatning him and was going to hit him & I stepped in the way. I told him never to threaten him and to leave the room. He name calls all of the kids names. I have over heard the 6 yr old telling my nephew & then my daughter that he is 'the devil'. Other parents who have been around us, have told us not to trust those two with our children. I am really concerned that he is going to hurt one of the kids. The mother is aware of his behavior and she does nothing to correct them, instead she's says 'what wrong my baby?' She'll bend over backwards trying to please him and instead of saying behave she'll give him what he wants. Whenever we correct him he cries and whines to his mother. The kid is obviously troubled & his brother is taking after him. We dont allow him in the kid's rooms & try to keep a close eye on him. What should we do? What would you do?

Answer 1

I think it's time to call CPS and make a "child in need of services" report.  The boy is clearly dangerous if he's claiming to talk to dead people and choking other children.  Tell the social worker what's been going on with the boy, and possibly get the others who told you not to trust the boy to vouch for you.  It sounds like the parents are in denial, and their son is going to seriously hurt someone if he doesn't get help.  Good luck.

Answer 2

It's to late! The only thing that will help this child now is boot camp for kids or making him go into a group home / mental hospital where he can get the help he needs!

His brother is the ultimate victim and will be the one who take the most from this if nothing happens!

Keep him away from your family!!!!! He is poison! And it's was due to a complete lack of parenting!

Answer 3

beat their butts

Answer 4

You need to keep them the h**l away from your children!!! i dont care if they are family or watever make sure they go no where near you children... mark my words they will seriously injury a child one day (maybe even kill one) DO you memba about 10 years or more ago there were two boy where were jailed for luring a 4 year old away from his mother and then tortured him to death because they were 'curious'... well those two boys sound like them!!!

Answer 5

I assume that your family is very close because you get together every weekend.  So I would talk to your brother about how his girlfriend's kids are affecting the whole family and explain your concerns for the other children's safety.  He may also not know how to handle them and you talking to him may make him feel like he's not alone.  

Since only the troubled kids mom can begin to change their behavior through discipline or therapy there isn't a whole lot you can do. Unless they are coming to your house, then I would have your brother tell his girlfriend that she either needs to control their behavior around the other kids or she needs to keep them at her house with a babysitter.

If I were the other parents and my children were being abused I would tell the mother I'm not tolerating her kids abusing my kids and she either needs to make them stop and if she can't do so then I'd call the police to make them stop.

Answer 6

I would be making it known that he was not welcome in my house. My kids safety comes first