How to deal with REALLY low self esteem?

Question

I'm always miserable and depressed, probably because of this.

I totally hate myself. My mom says everyone thinks like this and is insecure at my age (13) but it's so bad. I avoid looking in mirrors, can't stand to look at myself cause I'm ugly. I do my makeup in dim light because I can't stand seeing how awful I look, and if someone's in the bathroom with the light on I'll wait until they're done so I don't have to see how tired I look in the mirror.

I feel totally worthless. There's basically no point in anything. I'm not good at anything I like to do. (Singing- I wish I could sing well and loud, I love music so much. But you're mostly born with it. I'm not good.)

I only have one friend, and she has no friends either and is always busy/has really strict parents so we can never talk on the phone and barely ever do anything. I dread going back to school because there's nothing good about it, just tons of homework and boring classes.

I kind of tried to make friends but I guess I just don't have good social skills or something.

I never look forward to doing anything and I wish I could just sit on my bed for the rest of my life and not have to go to school or see anybody. I'm also embarrassed of going to school because of how ugly I am. I'm getting fat, too.

Answer 1

You only have one problem in the world. You are suffering from depression, and need to have medication and therapy to get you back on track .Please do so, because it is a miserable life when suffering from depression that can be treated and cured. Go to a doctor now!  Good luck!

Answer 2

It's normal at your age to be concerned about the way you look, but believe me as you grow older you'll come to realize that what's inside is a lot more important.

You say that you hate yourself because you believe you're ugly. I'm very glad you're not saying that you hate yourself because you're a bad person. I'm sure you're a great girl and to be honest I think you are being selfish for keeping others from getting to know you. I'm sure you could make a difference in somebody else's life if you would just look around.

There are a lot of young and old people out there who suffer from low self esteem. Mostly because of what they believe they should look like or be able to do.

The best you can do is be yourself. I would suggest that you be strong, turn on the light and have a good look at yourself. Everybody has something beautiful in them. It could be your eyes, your hair, your hands, anything.

You don't have to look like all those models you see on TV or in magazines. You are you. You are unique and hating yourself is like saying God made a mistake and he never does.

If you feel you are getting fat do something about it. Do some research on healthy food and how to take care of your body.

Get together with your friend at school and make a list of the things you like about each other. You wouldn't be friends if you didn't like each other right? Read that list everyday and add stuff to it when you think of something new and stay focused on the good things about you. You sound like a very intelligent person. That's the first thing you could put on your list.

If you enjoy singing. Sing! Sing your heart out... you don't have to be the greatest singer in the world to sing. Just sing and feel happy...

Good luck and I wish you all the best.

Answer 3

You sure on inward focused.  Stop look at yourself and focus on this big beautiful world out here.

It is natural to be insecure at your age.  But what you don't see is that you don't have to impress nobody but yourself.  

Go forward with a piece of mind that you have done your best to become the best you are capable of becoming.  Stopping wasting your time on the wasted emotion of "hate" and how you look.  

And BTW, having a bunch of friend ain't all that its cracked up to be.  Just march ahead into the next school year and dream a little.