How to deal with a jealous 7 year old?

Question

I am pregnant with my 7th baby and hes due in 2 weeks. When my youngest son Ian (4) was born, Maya (7) was extremely upset. When we told her we were going to have another baby (complete surprise by the way) she freaked out. Well that was a while ago, but now that it's getting close to his due date, she is very upset with my husband and I. How can I help her not be so jealous. She is the type of girl that gets what she wants when she wants and is completely spoiled by my husband. She says that another baby will take the attention she wants. So how do I help her with this?

Answer 1

Think about it, she's not going to be jealous for no reason at all If she's upset she probably felt like she was forgotten when she was younger when your other child was born. If she felt forgotten it probably didn't feel too good to her and she wants to avoid something like that happening again. Just make sure she knows if you do ignore her a couple of times its because the baby needs attention because he doesn't know any better but your daughter does and its her time to show you even though shes younger she can start being responsible.

Also to help her feel left out let her help you pick out his clothes, get his blanket when its time for a nap, help make his formula (if you use it), or pack the diaper bag when you're going out. Let her have time with him to play and let them bond and when she loves him as much as you do there shouldn't be so much resistance and uneasiness between all of you. Good Luck and hope i helped!

Answer 2

Explain that she will get the same attention she got before, and she won't be forgotten.