How to deal with a suprise baby?

Question

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I'm not pregnany yet.... but will be TTC very soon! Anyways... We really don't want to find out the s*x of the baby before hand. The only problem is that we want to have very gender defining clothing and nursery set up. Does anyone have any ideas of how to accomplish this?

We were thinking of letting one family member know beforehand and the day I have the baby, have that person give the information so that things can be arranged.

Or maybe having people just give us gift cards and going shopping soon after the baby is born. We could buy a few outfits of each color... what we don't need can be returned.

It just seems like such a hassle but it's important to me. I just need a way to make it work!

Answer 1

Well, you can't dictate what people buy or even ask for anything.  That's just plain rude.  There are plenty of unisex items for newborns.  Besides that..the baby won't care anyway LOL

Answer 2

everything happens for a reason. keep the baby. love it.

Answer 3

You cant have both, if you dont know what bubs will be you cant be set up. Everything can be ordered and picked up/delivered I suppose while you are still in hospital, if there is a change needed shops should be able to easily change any colours of products.

But as for telling family, there is no need to tell anyone until you give birth and find out, everyone will find out as soon as possible and be dying to find out who your bundle of joy is! :) Good Luck! :)

Answer 4

You cant have it both ways I'm afraid.   What i would do is get things that can go either way. like get a crib thats not for just one gender (also handy if you plan on reusing it for your next baby)  Then  you can just get the bedding.  You could get white to start with, white can go either way, and looks wonderfully fresh and clean for a newborn, because you'll want to have some bedding clothes and stuff washed and ready before baby comes. then after baby comes you can go crazy with the pink or blue. but keep in mind after baby comes, going shopping will be the last thing you want to do. so you'll wanna make sure you have the things you'll NEED. which are diapers, blankets, onesies stuff like that.  But most of the clothes and stuff you baby needs will prolly be given to you after baby is born, and you wont want to buy too much extra because they grow out of it all so quickly.  My aunt said her first born didn't even wear half the clothes they were given for him, not because they didn't like them, but just because there wasn't enough time.   Anyway, I'm rambling a bit. Try not to worry so much about all this, you'll have 9 months to think about this stuff, after you actually get pregnant. Try to relax, trying to conceive is stressful enough without adding more things to worry about. Best of luck!!

Answer 5

just buy fun colors that either s*x could wear yellow blue, or even pink! Good luck!

Answer 6

I wish I had your problems. Get pregnant first and everything else will fall in place, and when the baby is born, I wouldn't worry too much about setting up clothes. Mine outgrew everything we had bought for him, within two weeks !

Answer 7

Gift card idea sounds good but to be honest, do you really think you'll feel like going shopping right after the baby is born?  Everyone I've ever known has been pretty tired and busy with getting on a new schedule, etc.

There is nothing wrong with getting non gender specific clothing like green , yellow and even blue for a newborn. It's not like the baby is going to care or that it will affect him/her at all. Actually in your nursery, you could paint green or yellow and then add the blue or pink accents when the baby is born.

I am guessing that you could have maybe another shower after the baby is born, they used to do that at work sometimes so that the parents can get stuff they need.

The stuff you're going to need immediately: onesies, bibs, wipes, diapers, etc. that stuff is totally good for either s*x.

Answer 8

I think you should get pregnant before you worry about all this other stuff.

Answer 9

The only absolute necessities your baby will need from the get-go are:

1) bottles

2) somewhere to sleep (crib, bassinet, cradle, cosleeper, whatever you choose)

3) diapers/wipes/powder/etc.

4) clothing and a few blankets

5) a bathtub and bath accessories

6) a travel system (carrier, stroller)

As for the nursery, all we have in our babies' crib is a crib sheet, since pediatricians now advise against bumpers and anything else being in the crib.

You can probably just get a gender-neutral bedding set, although all you really need for the crib is the sheet. Perhaps you can just get the sheet, then buy a gender-specific bedding set to work around it. You could start out with green, for example, and then if you have a girl, buy a nursery set with pink and green in it. The rest of what you put in the nursery is strictly decoration.

With clothing, stock up on gender-neutral newborn clothes so that the baby has enough stuff for at least a couple of weeks.

There are tons of great travel systems that can work for a boy or girl as well.

Put aside money whenever possible to stock up on gender-specific items (clothing, bedding) when the baby arrives.

Don't buy a bouncer seat, swing, etc. until the baby is about to be born or is already born, because there is a chance that he/she could hate it, and you'll want to be able to return it if that's the case.