keeps making "threats"? Our custody papers are supposed to be signed soon...like... this week, when our lawyers get back from they summer vacations. But when he came to pick up our child, I had a male friend of mine at my house, helping out my parents build their garage. He asked me who the guy was, and I told the truth, that it was my friend X. (Yeah, should had found a lie... dammit).
Well, when he had our child, he called me, telling me it was probably my boyfriend (which he isn<t), and that he didn't find it "fair" that another guy would spend more time with his child then him (he's a deadbeat dad, he is allowed way more visitation then what he uses, doesn';t pay his CS, never helped with the child, etcetc). I told him X is just a friend, but he didn't believe me, and now threatens that if I do find myself a boyfriend (mind you, he is apparently ENGAGED (we're not yet divorced) to his ex-mistress, whom he cheated on me with and left me for, and got pregnant after maybe 4 months with her), that he'd want joint custody because it wouldn't be "fair" if I get a BF and end up living with another man. Our custody papers that he AGREED to sign get me sole custody, him visitation every other weekend... he had AGREED to it, but now the thought I might have a bf (I've been single for over a year, my priority is my child!), makes him threaten everything again.
How do I deal with that? I've told him my personal life is none of his business, not to enquire about that, and that the guy is ONLY a friend! My parents needed help, and he's a great friend so he helped!
I'm just at lost on what to do to keep the peace so the papers get signed... I've made many compromises, but I'm tired of his attitude, and him thinking that because I am taking care of our child all the time, then I;m not entitled to have a relationship...
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