My ex left about 8 months ago and has since been seeing our son about one day a week, watching him while I work. Otherwise I never hear from him as he seems to be enjoying his newfound freedom from responsibilities which has been really frustrating me.
Initially when he decided to break things off he said he would watch our son one day a week, while I am at work and he has the day off... and will call to see him a couple times a week in addition to that for a couple hours here and there (take him to the park, for a walk, etc.) but in the 8 months he's been gone he never calls just to have him and only has him when I "need him to".
Wll oftentimes he's late and I've had to take my son to work with me in the am only to have my ex show up 15 minutes later, acting like it's not a big deal, and pikcing him up. And now several times he just hasn't shown up, claiming he "forgot" or "misunderstood" our arrangement. I've tlked to him about it numerous times and all he says is he's sorry, it was a mistake and to not lecture or nag him, cause he doesn't want to hear it and that's why he left me... cause he doesn't want to hear my nagging or my "opinions" about how things are or should be.
Then yesterday, again, I kept my son out of daycare as it was my ex's day to have him and he didn't show up, didn't call and it's the next day and I still have yet to get a call. Nothing.
How to I handle this. Talking doesn't seem to help, neither does nagging, etc. but I get so frustrated. How can he go from being so involved to breaking things off and "forgetting" when he's supposed to show up for our son????
Not sure what to do. I don't even tell our son he's coming anymore because some days he's reliable and some he's not.
Advice?
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