How to deal with mean father...?

Question

My father always insults me & calls me stupid for no reason but then turns around a few hours later & acts all nice with me, only to turn on me the next day again. He pretends to be nice with me infront of other people but as soon as they leave he's back to insulting me. He pressures me to the extreme when it comes to University work saying I will end up in some worthless job & forbids me to have male friends. He's just so controlling & puts me down all the time about everything from my looks to my intelligence...I'm sick of it & I'm starting to resent him for it. I'm planning on moving away to a different country (my homeland) with my 2 best friends & partner (who my dad hates, despite the fact that he earns good money, speaks 3 languages & is a great guy)...I know my dad will kill me for it but I just don't care anymore.

Is the way I'm dealing with this crazy? I understand he's my father & all, but just being under the same roof as him drives me insane & I wouldn't mind not seeing him for a good while, if ever again. I've been planning on moving country for a few years now so I'm not just jetting off to be miles away from him, by the way. Is me cutting off ties with him a good move?

Answer 1

Do not leave on bad terms if you can avoid it, but do leave!

If he refuses to accept your decision, so be it!

Just try to let him know that you are leaving to better your life.

Best wishes

Answer 2

Next time he is putting you down, tell him "I cannot help it my father raised me to be this way and the reason I am so ugly is I take after my father too much".

Then say"since I am so ugly and worthless, why not just kill me now and  rid the world of me?"

Then the next time he is being nice ask him if he has ever been diagnosed for bi polar.

DO not move out with a guy unless you are married to him hon.

Answer 3

Yes it is the very best thing you could do. Luckily enough you seem like a very strong person and are surrounded by good people(outside the family home). If I were you Id move out as soon as I possibly could. Your dad doeesnt deserve you. Good luck.x

Answer 4

run away,,,I LOVE MEXICOOO!

JUST LEAVE YOUR dad a note while u run away

Answer 5

I think your moving is the best idea in the world. Life is too short to deal with fools like that. He doesn't deserve you. Let him grow to be a lonely old man.  

Answer 6

yes i think you should move away, sometimes it takes being away from someone for them to realise what they have been like.  

Answer 7

You cutting off ties with him is a great move. There is no need to be around someone who constantly puts you down. Good luck, and enjoy your new life once you are finally out of there.

Get out of there!!!!!!