How to deal with my family?

Question

I've had problems fitting in with my family for 7 or 8 years now...I'm not by any means an outsider, there are times when things are great but more often than not, things get out of hand and I end up taking everything people have to throw. It's the worst with my mom, I was always the momma's girl when I was younger but some time it reached a point where things were just hot and cold with her. Either she loves having me around or she can't stand me and tells me to "get the h**l out of her house" (no lie, those are her exact words). And it's like she thrives off of my sister always trying to start fights with me. Whenever my mom hears my sister yelling at me, she comes running and joins in with my sister. Now I'm not saying I'm this angel and don't deserve to be put in my place at times, but I know I don't deserve the way I'm treated. I'm not one for confrontation so I just tend to either sit back and take my mom and my sister saying that I'm worthless and don't deserve the life I have or I just get up and walk out, not coming home for a few days (knowing that things would've calmed down (I'm actually afraid of going back to my house))

Another problem is that my sister's boyfriend has been living with us for the past 3 years. You'd think my mom and my sister would respect my opinion and ask what I thought, but nope, nothing. And he takes pleasure out of annoying me. And this isn't big brother type of annoying. This is cruel. Even when I politely ask him to lay off, he laughs and doubles his effort. When I stopped paying attention recently he shoved me and grabbed my computer out of my hands so I had to pay attention. I tried talking to my mom about it and she defended him! Does anyone else see something wrong with that? She said it was my fault for not paying attention...

My mom's never listened to me, never believed me when I've told her my sister hits and scratches me when I show her marks or when i try to talk to her about what my sister's boyfriend does... I've been dealing with it for more than half my life and I'm just too tired to keep it up any more. I don't know what to do...I can only stay strong for so long.

Anybody have any ideas on how I can get any of this to stop? Or at least lighten it a bit?

Answer 1

First let's face facts, you have a lousy family!

You didn't say how old you are but I assume you are still in high school or you would have moved out of that house by now.

You should not have to live like that.  You absolutely should not have to take anything off your sisters boy friend.  Since you mother is not going to do anything about it,  then you have to.

Talk to your school counselor and tell her how every one is treating you at home, your, mom, sister, and her boy friend.  Tell her that you are afraid to go home.  Tell her about your sister hitting you and scratches you and your mother does not do or say anything to her.

You ask if we could lighten your load a bit, not with the family you have.  None of them seem to care.  That is why you have to seek outside help.

I really feel so very sorry for you, your child hood is about gone and you didn't even get to enjoy it.

Do you have any nice relatives you could live with?   If you do, ask them if you could live with them.

Print a copy of your question and take it with you when you go see the counselor.  

Good luck!

Answer 2

get a job and get out of that house