How to deal with neighbor's son?

Question

he's same age as my son tey have a love hate thing for eachother and it wasn't bad when they lived further apart but now they live across the street and everytime my son is outside the kid keeps giving him the finger and uses foul language and when my son says something back he goes in and cries to his mom, i've told her on numerous occassions he's said something first to my son I know this because I'm listening from the window. she insists her son would never do things like this but he is and she sees my son as the bad child how can I and my son deal with them?

Answer 1

catch it on a camcorder! lol

tell your child to ignore it!  Only makes the other party more frustrated!  Granted it's hard to tell kids to do that!

But i like the camcorder idea!

Answer 2

catch it on video! write down everyday that it happens (dont tell you son your doing this cuz you dont want him to provoke the kid...thats not fair) then when you have enough proof show his mom and teach your son not to say anything back or too let that kid bother him. Set it up like a servailence camera so you can catch all the action.

Answer 3

ignore it. tell your son not to talk to him ... if your son talks to the other kid then that is letting the other kid no that it bothers your son and he will keep doing it.

Answer 4

If this happened with my son (6) I would do the following:

I'd tell my son that though the kid across the street is doing something naughty, he can make the right choice, and not be naughty back.  Then he can tell the other child that he doesn't like what he's doing, and ask him to stop, and that he'll tell his mom. If the flipping off child does not stop, he'll need to go tell the flipping off child's mom about it.

Don't rescue your son from this. He needs to learn to deal with conflicts with other people, and conflict resolution...

Answer 5

Keep your son out of the front yard so this kid can't provoke him and vice versa.  Set up a survellance camera to catch this other kid and mail the disc/tape of it to his mother.

Answer 6

i get a secerity video thingy and set it up so that u can catch the kid on tape, everytime. show how her son does things like this all the time. Then tell your son not to even look at the kid.

Answer 7

Hi the only way you can deal with it as there is no winning in this situation you are going to stick up for your son and so is she, so unless they are able to grow up there best not to even have contact and your soon not to talk to him as this other lad seems like a spoilt brat and you son doesnt need friend like him.

So I would just tell your son that you shouldnt talk to him anymore and stay away as he is only trying to get him into trouble.

You have tried talking to his mum and this has gotten you knowwhere so its best for you and you son to have no contact with either of them just walk past them in the street and dont even acknowlege them, if her boy tries to talk to your son, just tell him to pretend he isnt even there.

Answer 8

Video tape it and show her or recorded it!