How to deal with people with bad attiudes?

Question

How do you deal with arrogant, self-centered, and rude people, without having a physical altercation.

Answer 1

talk to them or refer them to a psychiatrist

Answer 2

Practice yoga. Then put your practice to work by breathing deep and 'going somewhere else'.

Answer 3

Great info on dealing with difficult people effectively.

Good luck!  :)

http://psychologytoday.com/articles/pto-...

http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2004/11...

http://www.uiowa.edu/~ucs/difficult.pdf

http://www.itstime.com/mar99.htm

Answer 4

lol. I like that you call it physical altercation because I know how you feel. I don't know how they do it but they get under your skin so bad, they make you want to do things to them that you never even thought you'd ever want to do to another human being.

Phew, ok, what I do is just be a complete smartass back.. but never say anything rude. That works for some of them. And whenever they say something smart or funny, I always say something funnier and make them look worse.

Then there are those ones that if you do it back, you just seem to make them want to do it more. For example, if they are being very  arrogant and talking about how good they are at something, and bragging on and on, I just look at them and kinda giggle and shake my head and they say oh man.. and walk away. This lets them know that you don't think they are that great without just saying. Play it off like they are not even half as important as anyone else in the room. Don't listen to their stories. Or if they are trying to tell one and want everyone to listen, you and your friend can have a conversation on the side and laugh and giggle and just have a great ol time like what he  or she says doesn't even matter. These kinds of ppl want nothing but attention.

When they are rude, such as you are pooring drinks for everyone and they say something to get their drink right away (this is just an example of how I take care of them) and they want you there right now becuaes they feel they deserve your undivided attention I just laugh and say, I don't know who you think you are, but you wont get anything from me with that attitude and just don't pour them a drink and continue on with everyone else and they sit down and talk to a friend like it never even happened.

The trick is to make them feel less important than everyone else in the room as to level how how important they feel they are compared to everyone else in the room.

I have friends of friends that are like this and I never let them win. It's almost fun to me!

Answer 5

Laugh at them. Appreciate that you are nothing like them and never will be.  Don't speak to those sort of people if they put you down.  Don't bother with them :)

Answer 6

most pple like that love confertation so i have found that by staying calm and not letting them get to you makes them upset the most. if they are acting better then you then laugh at them for trying with a "whatever" kinda attitude. good luck...oh and sorry about my spelling

Answer 7

Just ignore them.  It might not be easy, but don't lower yourself to their levels.

Answer 8

Totally ignore and isolate them, even if they address you.

Answer 9

see if you know they are arrogant and self-centered then its better to avoid them rather than deal them. but if u have to deal them for compulsory may be in job place or school then its better deal with them only to the extinct where u have work with that'sthats it.

Answer 10

Some people are just like that for no real reason. Other people have what psychologists call "Narcissistic Personality Disorder", where they literally view themselves as more important than everyone else. Sometimes there is nothing you can do but ignore those kinds of people.

For example, if someone approached me and said that they thought I was arrogant and rude and that they wanted to "deal" with me without having a physical altercation, I probably spit in their face.

Your best bet is just avoiding people like that.  

Answer 11

In my experience you can't do anything but try to ignore that rude obnoxious person



sorry can't help

Answer 12

Try to remain calm.  

Answer 13

Just ignore them. It might not be easy, but don't lower yourself to their levels.

Answer 14

sit back and laugh

Answer 15

i don't.

I don't go near them, i don't mess with them, i don't even look at them.

soon or later, they're going to realize that the world does not revolve around them, but they revovle around the world.

Answer 16

Don't let them rent space in your head.  As long as you know what they're all about, try to let it go.

Not easy, lol, I know, I have a couple like that in my circle.

Answer 17

I would  Ignore ignorant people like that It's the only way I know

Answer 18

It's interesting how you describe the person you are having trouble with: arrogant, self-centered, and rude. At no point do you mention that THEY are physically trying to hurt or intimidate you and yet their behavior is causing you to think about having a physical altercation.

My best advice is to first LISTEN to what they are saying. "Seek first to understand rather than to be understood".

Once you understand their point of view, and they feel understood, the chances of you getting your needs met greatly increase.

Another thing to remember about people is that ALL COMMUNICATION IS EITHER A LOVING RESPONSE OR A CRY FOR HELP.(From A course in miracles)

If this person is a jerk, it's because inside they are really full of a lot of emotional pain. Therefore, don't take it personally. It's NOT about YOU. You just happen to be there in their presence, so they are 'vomiting' on you.

State your needs clearly and calmly and don't do any 'name calling'.

Try to avoid this person whenever possible.

Good luck!

Yam King