How to deal with pouting kids?

Question

Ok I work at a day care, and right now when they pout they get time out... they saying is "If your gonna pout go sit in time out" most of them get it, but some of them still do it.. What are some better methods of dealing with a pouty child with several other kids around?

oh and some better time out methods... I have two who just wont sit in time out no matter how many times I put them there. I get on their level, and talk calmly with them about what they are doing that is getting them in there and what they can do to get out... like if you sit here quietly for 4 mins you can go play again, but they just won't listen... what else can I do.

I need methods, and things to say. and no they day care I work at is going through a management change, and they don't have any methods on anything really... its crazy... I'v kept my class as structured as ever, but with all the changes it's so hard.

Answer 1

watch the children you put in the time out corner, and make sure they stay there.  besides that, make it clear that they are taking away from their own play time by pouting.  just tell them that they can pout if they want to, but they are ruining play time for themselves and their friends.

Answer 2

do not bribe them!  just get them to participate in  group activities and give prizes to  those who actually follow directions. even if the prizes suck the kids who didn't get anything will get pissed off and do it cause they want a prize like every one else. you could even get them to play a game that helps you out like the quiet game or the clean up game. instead of just time out you take away privileges, like taking away a toy for a while or excluding them from other fun things.

Answer 3

introduce them to Mr.Whoopass

Answer 4

okay, i know a lot about kids. i had a brother who was one of the pouters and i have a little cousin who is a pouter, and i've delt with TONS of pouter children.

what you do is [and it works every time] it sounds kind of simple but it's the truth,

okay, why kids pout is because they want attention and so they pout. weather it's good or bad attention that's what they are wanting, but if you give them what they want, they realize that everyone is giving them the attention they want when they pout and they do it EVEN MORE!! and like i said, it could be good or bad attention that they want because they are angry, upset, etc... and like i said it works every time, you just leave the kid a lone. don't talk to the kid and just ingore the child until it comes back around and THEN you inform the child on why she/he can't pout and then just go as things are normal again and eventually each child will learn. usually it takes a bit for each child to come around [out of their pouting mode, but] if you just keep on telling the child, no and they keep on doing it then that's TRULY the only way to get them to stop. and remember you have to IGNORE THEM. now don't do the ingoring thing until you realize that time out or discipline isn't doing anything.

i hope this helps, and ya i know, kids can be awesome, but they're pains a lot of the time too.

Answer 5

Don't give them attention when they pout.  If they get undivided attention from you when they pout, they will only do it more.  My kids don't pout, but they do whine.  And I tell them that I can't understand them when they whine - I act like I can't understand the words until they talk normal.

Answer 6

Well once upon a time a quick short sharp smack to the bottom (or the threat of one) would put a stop to pouting but I doubt if that would be allowed these days so threatening them with further punishment if they don't stop pouting will have to do - perhaps not allowing them to participate in activities until they put on a cheerful face.

Good luck!

Answer 7

my little brothers and sisters are all under 5 so i just try to bribe them, or make them laugh

what works best is gettng the older sibling to distract her with a game.

try making up a quiet game or cleanup game for a prize

Answer 8

It seems to me the kids that are not listening to you is because they don't listen to their parents either. I would definitely bring it up with their parents so they to talk to them about listening to adults and how to act in public.

As for pouting they are just looking for attention. Ingore them. That is what my parents did to me and what I do with my nephew and neice and it works pretty well.  

I don't know if I would put them in time out for it .. I would just explain to them what pouting is because I know at that age I had no idea what pouting even was. Just a little whisper of " you are pouting and that means you are acting upset/sad/angry because you did not get your way. When you are done pouting please come back and join in with the group." Hopefully that kinda wakes them up to what they are doing even if they didnt know they were even doing it.

Answer 9

"if the wind changes your face will stay like that"

that used to freak me out when i was younger!!!

Answer 10

The problem with daycare is that you are limited in the disciplining factor.  

I do not allow my own children to sulk and pout.  If they are scolded or punished, they absolutely cannot sit around and pout about it.  I think this is tantamount to back talk and rebellion...it's just the silent kind.

Anyway, obviously, you can't do much about it with the kids in you daycare; their parents are the ones who should have already handled this issue long before these kids became school age!  This is just more examples of parents who are too wimpy and weak to make their children be respectful and obedient. About the only thing you can do is tell their parents about the behavior problems you had with their child.  But if they (the parents) have thus far raised the kind of kids who don't even do what they are told (sit in time out), I doubt very much they will do anything about it.

Talk to the director.  If it's the same children every time, maybe it's time for the director to terminate these kids from the daycare.