How to deal with problems of marriage life with a widowed person?

Question

If he/she had had a very good marriage life with thier late partner, how should the new partner take it.. talk and listen to their feelings, or avoide talking it.. how to keep away from being compared.. simply.. how you should be "yourself" under this kind of situation

Answer 1

If your life with late partner was near perfect  you wouldnot go around giving yourself to others...  Now accepting both in the new reltionships will both have a past life,just talk about about it as normal confab

Nothing wrong in saying Freds grew the best sprouts I ever tasted pity I never took notice of their name  ...Maggie always made jam with the fruit  must say I like them in your pies better than jam tarts and sandwiches but she sold alot at car boot sales ,dont start selling your pies

Answer 2

yes talk and listen to  how  she or he is feeling i went threw it when my third husband died you go threw lot of grief and feelings that are painful at those times you need someone that will be understanding

Answer 3

I think the partner should listen.  This is a unique situation because unlike someone talking about their EX there is no chance of reconciliation with the deceased spouse, so it is cathartic for the widow to express her feelings.

If you make it a taboo topic then it will cause problems