How to deal with severe social problems and College life?

Question

Ok i'm getting ready to go for my first week of college and i have severe social problems. i got made fun of bad in school for my looks and alot of the same people that made fun of me are going to this college, I am painfully shy i have no idea how to act in front of people. i am so nervous. classes don't start till tuesday but there is this mandatory weekend. i have to go socialize with people and go to seminars. how can i do this if those crappy people that made my life h**l in high school are going to be there. Is college the same as high school, will there be other girls like me there to talk to. i really need some guidance.

Answer 1

dont worry, college isnt the same. you dont really have the cliques and everyone is kind of on level ground. people dont joke around in class or tease people in the halls, they would just be embarrassing themselves.

just remember that college is more like a job and high school is for goofing around. everyone is too focused on their work to play around.

over half of all freshmen drop out in the first year or something so im sure you wont have to worry about most of those mean people soon. :)

Answer 2

I had the exact same issues/feelings as you.  I was never once bothered by the people who bothered me in high school.  I didn't make a lot of friends at the school I went to, so I transferred to another one and things are going better on the social front.  I think that a college has to be the right fit.

Answer 3

Fortunately most people grow up quite a bit in college. There may be one or two that are still out there but there is definitely a shift in thought in college.

Go out and get some new clothes. This might give you the "new shirt confidence".

Everyone at one time or another has been made fun of...as you grow older you will learn that the people making fun of you actually feel small on the inside and they are projecting their own insecurity on you.

An honorable, brave, powerful person doesn't do this. Just a small insecure person who has to step on someone in order to make themselves feel bigger.

Get in a club at school. There are plenty of them. Get in as many as you can find and hopefully one will be a great fit.

If some little person makes fun of you just tell them "stop projecting it makes you look so small".

That can response can work in almost any situation.

Hope this helps.

p.s. keep your head up. You deserve to be happy.