How to deal with this? My sister has is undergoing a fashion makeover and everyone is comparing me with her!

Question

Please advice me how to deal with my emotions as I am made to feel inferior by a few relatives and friends who compare us all the time. It is not that I am ugly, I just am in college on a scholarship, and do not have time for grooming so much. I am afraid it might induce jealousy feelings in me as recently I have noticed she puts me down for the way I look. Maybe she's feeling inferior for her not going to college. Anyway, how do I salvage our sisterly ties, which once used to be free from sibling rivalry?

Thank you very much!

Answer 1

i know its hard, but IGNORE THEM!!!

i think you nailed it on the head by saying your sister has the put-downs because she feels inferior.  its a shame that the other relatives are in on the negatives, maybe they grew up believing that women should be barefoot and pregnant and dont value the brain in your head. or maybe they are just hurtful jerks.  what ever they're reason, its no excuse.  

surround yourself with the people that appreciate you for who you are and dont be jealous of someone that makes another feel like c**p.  

easier said than done, but hold your head high and be proud of yourself knowing that you would never wantto make some one else feel as irritated, hurt and humiliated? as they have made you feel.

then again...nobldy can make you feel anything.  you are the one letting them mess with your head...

good luck

Answer 2

me nd my sister are exactly THE SAME... shes a little bit prettier than me, but sometimes it feels like a lot.. but its summer, experiment with some makeup.. ya know? don't try to look like a clown or sumthin.. just test ONE or two things.. like eyeliner, something thats fast cuz ur in college on scholarship.. so u shouldnt waste time on stuff like makeup.. and BESIDES, after u graduate from college, ur life is set.. u'll be makin $$$ and u can pretty urself up LATER!.. focus on college now... and besides, u said so urself too, ur pretty.. and she's not at ur college, so who cares rite? and the sarcasm.. give her sarcasm too.

Answer 3

whoa b happy u r seeing this as a situation that could crash ur sisterhood~~~talk to her about this and just talk about how rude n stupid your family acts when all this is being talked about besides i have seen sisters change around thru there years and one be prettier then the other then vice versa so share it talk it and to heck with these judgmental people continue to be best friends 4ever my sis n i split and i miss her to death honestly~``mom 49