How to deal with your Grandfather death?

Question

ok my Grandfather just died about three weeks ago. It was really sudden and it was really hard, because I had to watch him die in the hospital. His birthday was two days before and it was his 80th bday and we were going to go out and celebrate his bday, but instead we were planning his funeral. it sucked really bad. I miss my Grandpa sooooo much!!!! it makes me cry when ever i think about him. We use to eat ice cream together all the time. How can i deal with this

Answer 1

-get interested in something you've always wanted to do.

-go out with friends

-avoid ice cream and elderly peoples homes.(im not trying to be insensitive)

but thats only procrastinating getting over his passing and it'll hit you again one day.

Harder but better for long term coping ways to deal with it would be to simply find someone to (or by yourself) do the things you did with your grandpa  

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Another long but good way is to take long walks by yourself and straight-up think of him and all of his habbits and sayings and all the things he did maybe twice a week, its not sure how long it'll take

but it'll pass.

those last 2 suggestions are very slow and hard but you'll simply be able to move past his death, youll still miss him ethier way but you'll be used to not having him there.

Answer 2

talk about it with friends and family

sorry for your loss

Answer 3

When that happened to me, I had to keep working.  And I worked out hard.  Just go keep my mind off of the situation.  

Answer 4

You really have to take things a day at a time. It's going to be hard...and you will have to learn to EXPECT it. They day you begin to EXPECT things to be hard, it will be easier for you to deal with it.

If you really are going through a tough time...and if months from now, you find that you still can't get over it, then find professional advice.

My grandpa passed away on December 20; 5 days before Christmas, so it was hard for my entire family to cope. Even now, he is still in our minds, specifically on that day.

Good Luck

Answer 5

Well I know its hard. My grandfathers death anniversary was yesterday and boy was it hard. My grandfather was my best friend and we did everything together. I used to see him everyday and would talk on the phone a few times a day. I would go over his house and hug and kiss him and he loved me so much, he always told me I was his light and his little princess (I'm 22) but the youngest of my siblings and although he loved all his grandchildren I was clearly the fav but all of us knew and they never had a prob w/ it. Anyways he died of a heart attack. He actually had 3 heart attacks in 3 days a year previous b/for he actually died. Anyways he had diabetes and we never thought he would die from a heart attack we always thought it would be the diabetes so thats what shocked so much...but anyways he recovered from the first heart attacks after two weeks of being in the hospital everybody called him a mirical b/c the doc had gave up on  him and he made a full recovory but a year later he had another one and I believe in my heart he could have lived b/c he had been put into a reg room and was sched to leave in a few days but over night the nurses did not check on him and when my grandmother walked in the next morning she found him in the middle of another heart attack and no one at the hospital even knew b/c they were too lazy to get up and check so he died a few days later, he never recovered that time. It was so hard for me. I fainted at the hospital when I had to go in the room to see him the last time after he died it was too much for me to deal w/. I nearly went crazy at the funeral and my dad also had a heart attack at the funeral b/c they were close friends too...that day was just bad all together. Anyways sorry so long but I know how  you feel and its gonna be hard b/c I cried many many nights since then and you really never get over it but you get stronger day by day and then more and more you'll see yourself laughing instead of crying b/c you think of all the good times and fun you had w/ him. And im sure he wouldnt want you around there crying all the time. I'll say a prayer for you and your family and I promise you it will get better ok. God bless.

Answer 6

just take some time, and cry. cry cry cry.

Answer 7

Time makes it easyer to deal with it is never easy when some one we love dies it is so hard. My dad died at a young age he was only 58 years old and that was the hardest thing for me and I thought I wouldnt get threw it he died on my moms birthday but it was hard and so sad I cryed all the time and little things brought back so many memories but with time it gets easyer it's been over 10 years now and some days I still find my self crying at some thing that reminds me of things we did that we can no longer do, it will always be sad but you will get threw it with time it's good you've got such good memories of him those will help you get threw it

Answer 8

you should make a scrapbook or something that can remind you of him, of all the good memories you have shared together.  A good way to get over a death of a loved one is to show your love and appreciation for them and how much you enjoyed to be with them. your grandfather, watching from above would probably be happy that he means so much to you.  hope this helped!

Answer 9

Vent! cry! scream!  But most importantly  get it out!

Better out then in.

It's going to  take time, think of happy times, look @ pictures, old videos and tell your wonderful stories with family and friends.

See we suppose to celebrated death and to mourn life. He lived!

Peace and Blessing to you

Answer 10

You have to remember and focus on the love you shared. It's going to be hard, but once the happy memories start replacing the sad ones, you're gonna know that you'll be ok again. Grief is a personal process that you have to deal with, but the sun does come out again. When I had to deal with the loss of my Grandpa back in 06, expressing my feelings in poems really helped. Earlier this year as the anniversary approached (he died in Feb), I wrote him a letter telling him how I felt, that I missed him and still loved him. I was crying as I wrote it, and sometimes my memories still bring me to tears. But I know that he's in a better place now, and he's not sick anymore, and I can be happy for him and happy that I'll see him again, and that time, I won't lose him again.

Be strong, and you'll get through it.

Answer 11

My Grandad died a few years ago the things that helped me was to think about the good times you had together and how he would not have wanted you to be sad but happy for him and that he will see you again sometime.

Answer 12

Its never easy losing someone you love. And the main healer is time. You have your memories with him and thats what you need to focus on. The happy times. Im sure he wouldnt want you to sit and cry about him. If you believe in life after death like me then you will probly believe he is watching over you right now.